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Game & Forum Discussion => Game Discussion => Topic started by: DylanCheetah on March 18, 2021, 12:12:47 am

Title: The Bullying Needs to End
Post by: DylanCheetah on March 18, 2021, 12:12:47 am
It has come to my attention that many of my fellow community members are being bullied by other people within this very community. And most of the bullying is taking place via private chats. Furthermore, most of this bullying is going unreported and the bullies go from victim to victim playing the very same cruel "games". Which is why I feel that I should remind all of you a few things.

To those who become a victim of bullying:
I know you may be afraid to come forward and report whoever is bullying you, but you need to report every bullying incident not only for your sake, but also for the sake of your fellow community members who may become  future victims of bullying.

To those who think it is OK to bully people:
Bullying is cruel, insensitive, immoral, and disrespectful. You should be ashamed of yourselves. Furthermore, bullying is a form of harassment and is in fact a crime that can carry heavy penalties and legal implications that will haunt you for years whether you are an adult or not.

On an ending note, I have remained silent and watched many people be bullied both ingame and outside too. And it is time I spoke out against this and called for reform. And to those who might accuse me of "stirring drama", this post has nothing to do with that. It is merely bringing attention to a very real an serious problem around here. In fact, it is one of the primary things that is driving people away from this game these days. We need change and we need it now.

#EndTheBullying
Title: Re: The Bullying Needs to End
Post by: ferimeX3 on March 18, 2021, 02:07:52 pm
Thank you for making this Dylan! The awareness must be spread and talked about more often
Title: Re: The Bullying Needs to End
Post by: PanzerWulff on March 18, 2021, 05:36:00 pm
Agreed, I hate bullying with a passion and the fact that people even try to bully others in-game is beyond me... >:(


So to the "bullies" within this community play nice and leave others alone and let them enjoy what they are doing within the game, and if You don’t like it then go elsewhere, and if not then ya better find something fast because bullying isn’t gunna get you guys anywhere here nor in real life :) It’s easy peasy lemon squeezy
Title: Re: The Bullying Needs to End
Post by: Ame88 on March 18, 2021, 06:45:27 pm
Unfortunately bullies will be everywhere, no matter where you go and no matter how hard you try to prevent it from happening. The best you can do when you encounter someone giving you trouble is to block them. You can even take screenshots of the encounter if you feel the need, especially if the bully is taking it too far or your feel threatened.

Turning the other way and ignoring the bully is 100% the first thing I always tell people to do, this is something I have to do myself if anyone is trying to give me flack over anything. If you've ever been around me in-game when one of those trouble makers are online then you've probably seen someone causing a fuss, usually always about mods or staff in general due to me being one. Most the time they get bored or tired and leave me alone when I ignore them, but if it ever gets excessive then I will either block them or log off for a couple minutes to an hour. Bullies do not deserve your time so don't give them even a second.
Title: Re: The Bullying Needs to End
Post by: DylanCheetah on March 18, 2021, 07:28:16 pm
Unfortunately bullies will be everywhere, no matter where you go and no matter how hard you try to prevent it from happening. The best you can do when you encounter someone giving you trouble is to block them. You can even take screenshots of the encounter if you feel the need, especially if the bully is taking it too far or your feel threatened.

Turning the other way and ignoring the bully is 100% the first thing I always tell people to do, this is something I have to do myself if anyone is trying to give me flack over anything. If you've ever been around me in-game when one of those trouble makers are online then you've probably seen someone causing a fuss, usually always about mods or staff in general due to me being one. Most the time they get bored or tired and leave me alone when I ignore them, but if it ever gets excessive then I will either block them or log off for a couple minutes to an hour. Bullies do not deserve your time so don't give them even a second.

Totally agree with this, but sometimes the bullies will circumvent blocking via various means. Not even Discord or other places can prevent that and everyone should know that if things escalate, they need to seek help to put an end to the bullying. I am in fact aware of at least one case where a friend of mind was continuously bullied by someone who would circumvent blocking over and over. They evem pursued them to other places around the web and my friend ultimately decided to delete their accounts and assume a new identity to escape it all.
Title: Re: The Bullying Needs to End
Post by: Ame88 on March 18, 2021, 08:48:33 pm
Unfortunately bullies will be everywhere, no matter where you go and no matter how hard you try to prevent it from happening. The best you can do when you encounter someone giving you trouble is to block them. You can even take screenshots of the encounter if you feel the need, especially if the bully is taking it too far or your feel threatened.

Turning the other way and ignoring the bully is 100% the first thing I always tell people to do, this is something I have to do myself if anyone is trying to give me flack over anything. If you've ever been around me in-game when one of those trouble makers are online then you've probably seen someone causing a fuss, usually always about mods or staff in general due to me being one. Most the time they get bored or tired and leave me alone when I ignore them, but if it ever gets excessive then I will either block them or log off for a couple minutes to an hour. Bullies do not deserve your time so don't give them even a second.

Totally agree with this, but sometimes the bullies will circumvent blocking via various means. Not even Discord or other places can prevent that and everyone should know that if things escalate, they need to seek help to put an end to the bullying. I am in fact aware of at least one case where a friend of mind was continuously bullied by someone who would circumvent blocking over and over. They even pursued them to other places around the web and my friend ultimately decided to delete their accounts and assume a new identity to escape it all.

That is when they need to document the proof of the bully doing so and report it to the proper places. Exactly why I said to even take screenshots of the encounters, to which in this instance you can use it later in the report. Utilize the report button or any form of a report system to get greater forces to stop them from doing this. Report it to discord if they are harassing through discord. Report it to us if they are harassing you in-game or on our forums so we can look into the situation. The same goes to any other place- use the tools around you provided by those platforms to protect yourself. If the platform doesn't allow you those tools, then leave it if it's truly an issue. Any form of bypassing being blocked is grounds for account suspension all the way to termination on some platforms, depending on how seriously they take block-evading as well as how serious the situation is provided the proof shows.
Title: Re: The Bullying Needs to End
Post by: DylanCheetah on March 18, 2021, 09:06:40 pm
Which exactly why I felt the need for this discussion. Because sadly, many people are too afraid to come forward and the bullies go from victim to victim with no punishment for their crimes.
Title: Re: The Bullying Needs to End
Post by: Oddonelynx on March 18, 2021, 10:26:31 pm
Bullying sux!


One day my friend was getting bullied by some trolls in game, I stood up for her. Bullies are really everywhere man.  :-\
Title: Re: The Bullying Needs to End
Post by: BluuLeopard on March 19, 2021, 12:40:27 am
Thank you for the warning Dylan, I hope everyone will make sure to keep an eye out for those rule-breakers. Insulting people isn't the way to go. 
Title: Re: The Bullying Needs to End
Post by: toonanimals317 on March 20, 2021, 03:59:07 am
The sad truth is that bullies are everywhere. I don't think there is ever going to be a community that is completely bully free, no matter how hard we strive to make that happen. There's always going to be at least one bad egg in the bunch. That being said, I agree with Ame. Not much can be done by moderators/staff members if no one speaks up about the issue at hand.

The fear of coming forward when someone is bullying you can definitely be real, and understandable. You should always try to report it if you can, but the best that can be done if you aren't willing to come forward is confront them yourself (not always going to go well, and you can't do as much as a staff member) or ignore the bullying/disrespect the best you can - which is what I'd recommend. Confrontation is usually only going to add fuel to the fire because bullies feed off of knowing they're bothering you. Also if you're talking about in game - the block button exists for a reason. There's also a way to block people on Discord, although I'm not sure it works super well in a group setting.

It is on us as people to remove ourselves from situations that may make us uncomfortable or feel upset. We cannot completely control the actions of others and never will be able to. We can only try to make people see the error of their ways, but it doesn't always work.

Thanks for this thread. No matter the time, bullying is a topic that should be covered and discussed. It's something that needs to end but without work, it never will. One person can only do so much. It's a fight that's continued on for years, and will continue for years to come.

 
Title: Re: The Bullying Needs to End
Post by: Ironic on March 20, 2021, 12:18:50 pm
Thanks for doing this.
Title: Re: The Bullying Needs to End
Post by: Arkham_Scout on March 21, 2021, 01:40:51 am
I agree with this Bullying needs to stop.

#EndTheBullying
Title: Re: The Bullying Needs to End
Post by: DylanCheetah on March 21, 2021, 01:47:38 am

Thanks for doing this.

np my friend.

While some of you are right about it being impossible to have no bullying, it can definitely be a lot less common than it is now. And the best way to do that is to start reporting every instance of bullying with proof of it, so the bullies can be punished for their crimes. Having to essentially run away from here until the bullies leave us alone is ridiculous. That should never happen.

As for blocking bullies, there are some who circumvent it in various ways. Which is all the more reason to report EVERY instance of bullying, so repeat offenders and block circumventers can get the stiffer punishment they deserve. That way we can put an end to this crap.

Shrinking back in fear and remaining silent just ties the hands of the staff and helps the bullies achieve their goals.