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Title: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Babe on May 18, 2011, 09:56:24 pm
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Jitters on May 18, 2011, 10:20:41 pm
    * What does the term Bullying mean to you?
     Bullying is when someone intentionally causes someone else to feel bad for their own enjoyment, or to make them feel better than someone else.

    * Have you been bullied in the past?
     Oh yes, and by lots of people too.

    * If yes, do you know why?
      Well back when I was in Jr. High I got picked on by teachers, one used to destroy my homework right in front of me and make me redo it, and another once read an anonymous survey I filled out and had me suspended for trying to get her fired.

In high school I never really got picked on, especially since starting at a new school.

After graduation, I had an accident at work which caused brain damage. After starting a new job, I ended up hospitalized. I missed some shifts, and came in with a doctors note. The one manager who was in charge of my missed shifts started saying awful things about my behind my back to other co-workers, and I'd hear about them from the ones who are my friends. After some time back at work I had to take a week off suddenly for emergency tests. I returned and got fired for faking my illness. About two months later I was completely bedridden. I was treated fantastic, no?

    * Have you bullied in the past?
      Yes I have.

    * If yes, why?
     For a good laugh. I still bully, but not to the harmful stage, and only with people I know.

    * Why do you think others bully?
      For some it is fun and it can raise self esteem. Many people don't even know they are doing it.

    * Why do you think kids feel better when they bully others?
     It makes them feel empowered, like they can control someone's thoughts and feelings. This is a sign they are lacking control in their own lives.

    * Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers actually helpful? (In General) Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers helpful in your schools / schools around you? (In your area)
      No, they have never been helpful. I once had my cds stolen and the school principle actually let the other girl take them because she claimed I had taken them from her, and she had a friend agree. My parents had to get involved, and I almost had to go to a different school.

My brother has aspergers syndrome, which is a severe personality disorder. He once got suspended because his aid told him he should stick up for himself more, and when he got bullied he did stand up for himself and got punched. He hit the little prick back and got suspended for starting the fight. Not only that, they banned him from school events for the year. He's mentally handicapped, and was doing what his aid told him to do. It really wasn't *all* his fault.

    * Are parents doing too much or too little to help?
      My town is lucky to have an active "bully free" community group, which gets involved in almost every bullying case by getting the media's attention and harassing school admin.

    * Can violence solve violence?
      Yes. Some people need to learn that words and pain hurt.

      WARNING: The following two questions may be considered sensitive to some!



    * Do you have any helpful ideas that may reduce bullying / suicides due to bullying?
      Teaching children how to respond to bullying may reduce it. Many of them bully for a reaction. Ignoring them is still a reaction though, and feeds them. Bullies need immediate punishment, before they've had a chance to reap rewards. Anonymous bully complaints in school might be helpful, as not everyone knows or wants to share that they're being bullied.

    * Do you know of anyone who commit suicide due to bullying?
     Yes.


      End of sensitive questions (Depending on who you are / what you've gone through)!

    * Have you seen others being bullied? 1. If yes, did you help? If you did not, why? If you did help, how did you help? 2. If no, why not? Do you regret not helping?
     I've seen it, but I will only stick up for my friends. I never stick up for strangers as they sometimes get embarrassed and I make things worse.

    * Have you seen a good friend get bullied?
      My one friends is a giant bully magnet. She's lucky though, there are people who would kill a bully who goes too far on her. The same person never bullies her twice, but somehow more keep coming. It's dimmed down since we left school though.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Babe on May 18, 2011, 10:25:52 pm
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Well back when I was in Jr. High I got picked on by teachers, one used to destroy my homework right in front of me and make me redo it, and another once read an anonymous survey I filled out and had me suspended for trying to get her fired.

In high school I never really got picked on, especially since starting at a new school.

After graduation, I had an accident at work which caused brain damage. After starting a new job, I ended up hospitalized. I missed some shifts, and came in with a doctors note. The one manager who was in charge of my missed shifts started saying awful things about my behind my back to other co-workers, and I'd hear about them from the ones who are my friends. After some time back at work I had to take a week off suddenly for emergency tests. I returned and got fired for faking my illness. About two months later I was completely bedridden. I was treated fantastic, no?

D8! That is absolutely horrible to hear, I'm so sorry about that. =( I myself have had a few problems with teachers in the past, but nothing so extreme!
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: owenater1000 on May 18, 2011, 10:31:24 pm
What does the term Bullying mean to you?
Hurting others to make yourself feel better!

Have you been bullied in the past?
Tons.

If yes, do you know why?
I am smart. I am fat! I am better than a few people at sports. (bullies have said these reasons, and a few I do not want to repeat!)

Have you bullied in the past?
If you count "bullying" a bully, then yes.

If yes, why?
They have messed with the wrong people. (handicap kids, kids younger than them, etc.

Why do you think others bully?
They feel bad about themselves, and use bullying to deal with it.

Why do you think kids feel better when they bully others?
Yes.

Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers actually helpful? (In General) Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers helpful in your schools / schools around you? (In your area)
No

Are parents doing too much or too little to help?
Depends on who you are. I think they do too little sometimes

Can violence solve violence?
No, but it is a form of closure.

Do you have any helpful ideas that may reduce bullying / suicides due to bullying?
No

Do you know of anyone who comitted suicide due to bullying?
(was not kidding.) no.

Have you seen others being bullied? 1. If yes, did you help? If you did not, why? If you did help, how did you help? 2. If no, why not? Do you regret not helping?
Alot. I help by throwing a few of the bullies off of them until they can handle the situation themselves.


Have you seen a good friend get bullied?
My friend got sent to juvi because of bullies! He snapped one day and broke a few bones of a group of bullies. He never did anything to anyone that would cause people to hate him.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Babe on May 18, 2011, 10:39:17 pm
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Do you know of anyone who comitted suicide due to bullying?
Me, if they do not leave me alone!

I am not entirely sure if you are being truthful there, but because I am a kind person I will assume you are being honest, I would suggest seeking out help. Suicide is not a light subject.. ^^;

Thanks for this interesting feedback, you two. <3
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Robin_Wolfieh on May 19, 2011, 12:46:23 am
What does the term Bullying mean to you?
Harming another human being for personal gain.

Have you been bullied in the past?
Yes.

If yes, do you know why?
For being learning disability (though this has vanished throughout my pre-teen years and am very intelligent)

Have you bullied in the past?
No

If yes, why?
N/A

Why do you think others bully?
Self-confidence and to make others miserable.

Why do you think kids feel better when they bully others?
To boost their ego and makes them feel invincible, or just plain heartless and like making others suffer (emotional, physical, social or mental pain)

Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers actually helpful? (In General) Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers helpful in your schools / schools around you? (In your area)
Actually, it varies. I can defend myself verbally (non-profanity) by various smart remarks and using "big words" that only some people will get. -any act of abuse is not tolerated at my High School though. We have, what we call "Peace Days", literally days of peace of non violence. The whole school is rewarded if we reach an amount of Peace Days. Today, we had a barbecue because we had about 155 days of peace (though it was indoors because of slight drizzle). Those that do violence will be punished, some would be expelled if serious offense (like sexual assault, battery, using arsenals and the like), suspensions up to five days before being expelled

Are parents doing too much or too little to help?
Varies on parent, but not enough.

Can violence solve violence?
No and it never does. You can't feed fire with fire; it only makes a bigger fire.

Do you have any helpful ideas that may reduce bullying / suicides due to bullying?
I have a theory, maybe therapy or chatting with them or their parents to find what triggers his/her anger (most cases where bullying starts) and find small solutions to lower that stress. Maybe playing sports or punching a dummy.

Do you know of anyone who comitted suicide due to bullying?
No.

Have you seen others being bullied? 1. If yes, did you help? If you did not, why? If you did help, how did you help? 2. If no, why not? Do you regret not helping?
Yes and it's getting more frequent. If it's with my friends, I'll help out not by violence but (as stated before) smart remarks without profanity. If it's a person I don't know, I'll let them control the situation.

Have you seen a good friend get bullied?
My good friend handles her fights well, so no assistance is needed.

Fact:
They didn't really know what's up with me. I was early diagnosed with Learning Disability at a very young age (1 mo. or such), but outgrew it due to my love for reading and learning. I'm now (last year actually) in a regular class (though one of them is honors) and handling my fights quite well than others.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Twiliac on May 19, 2011, 12:49:44 am
If I remember this topic, when I get my computer workin again. I'll have to answer this my self. :c.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Kyugima on May 19, 2011, 01:18:14 am
What does the term Bullying mean to you?

Mean arrogant losers who can't get over themselves.

Have you been bullied in the past?

Never been a day in my life I wasn't bullied.

If yes, do you know why?

My disability. I wasn't diagnosed until late in life so I had no help in the early stages of development, so i was unable to interact with people normally, still can't. People see that as weird and bully me.

Have you bullied in the past?

I (tried to)beat up a kid who attacked my ex once, does that count (added extra, it was hilarious when this 12-13 friend of mine who is very tall joined in, she leapt on his back) but he ran away before anything could really be done

If yes, why?

He was attacking my ex (actual BF at time) and had been one of the ones sexually harrasing me in school.

Why do you think others bully?

Because they can't figure out what losers it makes them (The stupid losers)

Why do you think kids feel better when they bully others?

Because they think it makes them look freaking cool that's why.

Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers actually helpful? (In General) Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers helpful in your schools / schools around you? (In your area)

Well, considering I was bullied by my principal once, I don't have a good impression, but I do know a lot of teachers fighting the good fight.

Are parents doing too much or too little to help?

My mum and dad are great, I don't know about others though.

Can violence solve violence?

It can scare them off at least XD

WARNING: The following two questions may be considered sensitive to some!




Do you have any helpful ideas that may reduce bullying / suicides due to bullying?

No. As long as there are people who are different there will be people who pick on them... It doesn't mean I don't want it to stop, but that just seems to be the way it is...

Do you know of anyone who comitted suicide due to bullying?
fortuantly no

End of sensitive questions (Depending on who you are / what you've gone through)!


Have you seen others being bullied? 1. If yes, did you help? If you did not, why? If you did help, how did you help? 2. If no, why not? Do you regret not helping?

I helped my ex (great lot of help that did, he turns around and starts blabbering about me, and when junk like that happened to me he couldn't give a stuff.)

Have you seen a good friend get bullied?
Yes
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Sarine on May 19, 2011, 01:25:55 pm
    What does the term Bullying mean to you?
    Treating someone in a way which each word is placed just so the person you're talking to feels awful.

    Have you been bullied in the past?
    Yes, even though I always ignore the nasty comments.

    If yes, do you know why?
    Well, because of my condition. But I honestly never bothered to answer those idiots. There had been times in elementary school when classmates would huff everytime I would announce I couldn't attend a school trip or project or whatever because of it, since of course such brainless kids don't take conditions seriously, do they? All they care is to complete the required number of students so that the trip is not canceled, and since I don't help, I'm the arrogant evil one. I've even been bullied online about it, from specific people I thought I could trust but got proved complete jerks.

    Have you bullied in the past?
    Sure I have. I think everyone has done it, with no exceptions. Like others have stated above me, sometimes you're doing it without even realising it.

    If yes, why?
    In specific cases, the reason is just because. As a kid, I was rather shy and weak to answer to comments like those. But after I grew more mature, I started taking my blood back. No boy would dare to comment on how me or my friends act in senior school, because they knew what would follow. Bullying comes along trolling as well, for me. I would bully little noobs to make them look stupid for my entertainment, I still do it. I do know it's cruel, but it's how I was treated myself when I was younger.

    Why do you think others bully?
    People who bully often are obviously unsure about themselves, and want to prove they're strong by making others feel weak. Being jealous is a reason most people bully, as well as to try to make themselves feel "cool". Derp.

    Why do you think kids feel better when they bully others?
    For the same reason stated above.

    Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers actually helpful? (In General) Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers helpful in your schools / schools around you? (In your area)
    In my area, not really. And that because kids don't often refer to adults, teachers or parents, when being bullied. That is because telling them only makes things worse, and I can't disagree with them. You only give a bully another reason to continue by telling an adult. Most kids that have problems often refer to a friend or a relative in their age rather than adults or teachers, at least here.

    Are parents doing too much or too little to help?
    Personally, I think parents shouldn't mess with their children's relationships, except if the kids want them to. Kids should learn how to deal with problems by themselves, and realise that their parents won't always be there for them later in life. I would say parents can be of some help, even if they shouldn't, in my opinion.

    Can violence solve violence?
    Everything should be talked out. Violence doesn't help in any way. Even though mostly boys in my area don't want to understand that.

    WARNING: The following two questions may be considered sensitive to some!



    Do you have any helpful ideas that may reduce bullying / suicides due to bullying?
    Nope. Bullying comes along other things in life. People should learn to deal with it.

    Do you know of anyone who comitted suicide due to bullying?
    No. In my opinion, you're obviously.. eh, how to say it nicely. You're just too depressed to suicide just because someone was not as kind as you wanted them to be.


    End of sensitive questions (Depending on who you are / what you've gone through)!

    Have you seen others being bullied? 1. If yes, did you help? If you did not, why? If you did help, how did you help? 2. If no, why not? Do you regret not helping?
    Yes I have. Well, I don't always help when I see people being bullied. As I stated above, I think people should try to deal with their problems by themselves. I've always been there to help friends though, as well as little helpless girls.. How did I help? In some specific cases, just bullying them back and making them look stupid solves the problem. If they're too stupid to get your sarcasm, just curse at them. If you have the right personality, you can scare them off. And no, I never regreted helping. Some people actually deserve it.

    Have you seen a good friend get bullied?
    Quite a lot of times. We help each other in such situations. Not such a big deal. People in my country don't take it THAT seriously. You're bullied? Bully them back. Simple.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Babe on May 19, 2011, 05:41:07 pm
I'm sorry to hear some of you have been bullied. </3

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Do you have any helpful ideas that may reduce bullying / suicides due to bullying?
    Nope. Bullying comes along other things in life. People should learn to deal with it.

True, bullying will never fully stop, but surely you do not think there is nothing we can do to reduce it, even by a little? o:
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Sarine on May 19, 2011, 08:01:57 pm
Well, it depends on people's intentions. If specific people could get over themselves at specific moments, surely bullying would be reduced too. But where is luck when you need it, such a thing is hard to happen, or near.. impossible. :B
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Wudiin on May 19, 2011, 09:02:17 pm
What does the term Bullying mean to you?
touture in general, be it by words or beating.

Have you been bullied in the past?
Yes, and I may go blind in one eye as the result of it.

If yes, do you know why?
A mix of skin color, and being a very odd child

Have you bullied in the past?
yep

If yes, why?
Got sick of being picked on, turned it aorund.

Why do you think others bully?
Makes one feel better about themselves, or their just A*ses or b*tches in general.

Why do you think kids feel better when they bully others?
- Answer Here -
yes

Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers actually helpful? (In General) Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers helpful in your schools / schools around you? (In your area)
- Answer Here -
no

Are parents doing too much or too little to help?
- Answer Here -
Both, frankly

Can violence solve violence?
-answer here-
yes

WARNING: The following two questions may be considered sensitive to some!



Do you have any helpful ideas that may reduce bullying / suicides due to bullying?
-answer here-
Not really. I frankly think kids are WAY too soft these days.

Do you know of anyone who comitted suicide due to bullying?
- Answer Here -
no

End of sensitive questions (Depending on who you are / what you've gone through)!

Have you seen others being bullied? 1. If yes, did you help? If you did not, why? If you did help, how did you help? 2. If no, why not? Do you regret not helping?
1.) No, they deserved it. You don't run around saying 'I wanna be raped by nazis! and not expect people to pick on your butt.

2.) I joind in actually, so I dont regreat a thing.

Have you seen a good friend get bullied?
- Answer Here -
yes
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: RyuuWolf on May 19, 2011, 10:58:50 pm
Interesting topic...

What does the term Bullying mean to you?
Being treated in a way you do not wish to be treated. It can be physically or mentally.

Have you been bullied in the past?
Yeah, sadly, and I still kind of get bullied...

If yes, do you know why?
I used to have a problem with saying my r's and s's wrong, and a kid at my school said something mean to me (I can't exactly remember it XD), and I ran out of the room crying ;_; More recently, I heard some kids talking behind my back, saying I was annoying or something ._. (Funny thing is, I never talk XD)

Have you bullied in the past?
Of course not! D: I might have talked behind some peoples backs but everyone does it, and it's pretty much human instincts in some way or another.

If yes, why?
- Answer Here -

Why do you think others bully?
Because they feel insecure of themselves, or they want to seem "cool". Sometimes, they might enjoy seeing pain to others, or have a hard time keeping their temper.

Why do you think kids feel better when they bully others?
I think that depends on the person. I think they feel fine while bullying said person, however, I think it might eat away at them.

Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers actually helpful? (In General) Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers helpful in your schools / schools around you? (In your area)
Oh yes, very helpful. I do believe, however, they can go a bit deep in those situations, and might want to follow you around or get to know you better, which can be tedious.

Are parents doing too much or too little to help?
It depends on the parents. I think the bullies parents don't do much to help though...

Can violence solve violence?
Depends on the situation... If you have to fight for what you're living for, then thats your choice. Though, you shouldn't let that feeling of violence take over you, for you may become a bully yourself if you abuse it.

Do you have any helpful ideas that may reduce bullying / suicides due to bullying?
Talk to the police; if anyone can help, they can. For suicides, you may want to talk to a close friend, or a therapist or doctor.

Do you know of anyone who comitted suicide due to bullying?
Thank god no...


Have you seen others being bullied? 1. If yes, did you help? If you did not, why? If you did help, how did you help? 2. If no, why not? Do you regret not helping?
I can't remember a situation in which I helped, or saw someone else being bullied... I swear it has happened, I just cannot remember it.

Have you seen a good friend get bullied?
Yes, along with me at the same time, though it was just some stupid kid knocking down chalks we put away when we were ready to go back inside from recess... (Stupid kid XD)
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Liekos on May 20, 2011, 02:23:09 pm
What does the term Bullying mean to you?

Treating others in ways they do not wish to be treated, of course.
Also just stubby kids with puberty hitting them like a ton of bricks >.>

Have you been bullied in the past?

Yes ma'am.

If yes, do you know why?

For being bisexual.

Have you bullied in the past?

Yes siree.

If yes, why?

To get back at them, i suppose. Other times it's always a joke, but in the past i didn't know
that the person may not think so. Caused a heap of problems..

Why do you think others bully?

Well, to show that they're "tough" or they've been bullied in the past and just.. yeah O:

Why do you think kids feel better when they bully others?

Hmm.. well if the kid that has onced been bullied suddenly decides to bully others then yeah,
they feel good about hurting others. Letting out their emotions, how mistreated they've been.
Guess it's like a "feel my pain!", revenge sorta thing.

Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers actually helpful? (In General) Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers helpful in your schools / schools around you? (In your area)

Yes, it's tight security at my highschool.. The teachers are very open, they encourage us to
come to them when these sorts of problems occur. However, a majority of the students don't seek
help from the teachers. I'm just thankful that hardly any bullying happens at my school C:

Are parents doing too much or too little to help?

Depends on who you are. As we know, many kids don't really tell their parents. Teens, really.
Whereas if i were to tell my parents that i have been bullied.. -shrugs- won't be pretty.

Can violence solve violence?

There are some stubborn kids out there who don't really get it when it comes to words,
so yes. Sometimes a good beating can solve things, sometimes.

Do you have any helpful ideas that may reduce bullying / suicides due to bullying?

Argh i feel terrible.. but no. There's plenty of help lines and such, but the kids..
just don't seek help  :(

Do you know of anyone who comitted suicide due to bullying?

No, thankgoodness.

Have you seen others being bullied? 1. If yes, did you help? If you did not, why? If you did help, how did you help? 2. If no, why not? Do you regret not helping?

I actually have never seen a kid get bullied. I hear of it, but never see. My cousin used to get bullied,
she told her teachers but they never really did anything. Eventually she told me about it, seeing as she didn't
really have anyone else to turn to. Turns out that it was a boy, bout her age, 13 ish. He bullied her,
verbally. Called her names and such. So, the little rash me. I went to his house with a few mates at
1 am, when we knocked on the door.. and when he saw us he started crying --. We talked about it, about him mistreating her, she got to clock him in the jaw. But yeah ever since then no one bullied her :3

Have you seen a good friend get bullied?

No, hope i never will.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Magpie on May 20, 2011, 05:02:07 pm
IN MINE=
Durp= The bully
durp= is anything

What does the term Bullying mean to you?
- Bullying... well anything really. From saying someone is ugly, they didn't brush their hair or just punching and calling them names. In life nearly every thing is bullying. -

Have you been bullied in the past?
- Yup, and in the present -

If yes, do you know why?
-I think so. I am a nice girl, who tends to make friends with everyone. Right, I'm going to call the person who is and was bullying me, Durp. Now Durp, I think bullies me because I am different. I draw wolves, I go on WolfQuest and Feral-Heart, I am just different, and thats why.-

Have you bullied in the past?
-I THINK so-

If yes, why?
- I do it without knowing really. Yes, I talk behind peoples back... but who doesn't? I am a good girl, but like...I wouldn't intend to bully but I just.. kind do? -

Why do you think others bully?
- Sometimes they are jealous, sometimes just angry. I can't go into everything, as bullying can be set of by anything. -

Why do you think kids feel better when they bully others?
- Yes and no. Yes, if they 'hate' the person. No as they can feel guilty and horrible after. -

Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers actually helpful? (In General) Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers helpful in your schools / schools around you? (In your area)
- AHAHAH, No way. In general, sometimes. In my school and others, the teachers are durps. When talking to a child about bullying, they JUST HAVE TO bring up who tattle tailed. durp-a-licious please. -

Are parents doing too much or too little to help?
- Way too much. My mum and dad tried to help me, they went over board. Told the mums and dads, and made Durp feel like an outcast.. Thats a little to far.  -

Can violence solve violence?
- Nupe. -

WARNING: The following two questions may be considered sensitive to some!




Do you have any helpful ideas that may reduce bullying / suicides due to bullying?
- For suicide, dudes you are you. In many cases bullying can be of jealousy, so you should feel proud. Right I have a story for you all take a look  Look at this, its...just horrible. DONT LOOK IF SENSTIVE (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suicide_of_Phoebe_Prince) -

Do you know of anyone who comitted suicide due to bullying?
- Happily, No. My sister's friend did, but I never knew her, -


End of sensitive questions (Depending on who you are / what you've gone through)!

Have you seen others being bullied? 1. If yes, did you help? If you did not, why? If you did help, how did you help? 2. If no, why not? Do you regret not helping?
- Yuh 1. Yes and no. I told the person who was bullying to get lost, but after that I didn't help. Let their friends help  -

Have you seen a good friend get bullied?
- Oh god yes. Ended up after school I punched the bully in the face. -
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: aerotechway1 on May 21, 2011, 03:37:49 pm
What does the term Bullying mean to you?

It means harassing someone else to lower one's self esteem to make them feel more inferior than anyone else

Have you been bullied in the past?

Yes

If yes, do you know why?

Because I made good grades and I was smart


Why do you think others bully?

I think they bully others because they want to demand respect and gain power, more like a status to impress others.

Why do you think kids feel better when they bully others?

For some, I don't really know. When something bad does happens to the person they were bullying, then maybe they'll feel sorry for themselves knowing that they will get in trouble

Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers actually helpful? (In General) Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers helpful in your schools / schools around you? (In your area)

Oh yes.

Are parents doing too much or too little to help?

Some parents are too little, some are too much and some are balanced.

Can violence solve violence?

No. Peace and love solves violence.



Aside from all that, what I hate about some parents is that they'll encourage their kids to bully others. That only makes things worse, especially later on in life.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: okami129 on May 21, 2011, 05:23:25 pm
    
What does the term Bullying mean to you?
    To abuse in violence or words

    Have you been bullied in the past?
    >.> Yes

    If yes, do you know why?
    Because the person was a snob.

    Have you bullied in the past?
    No

    If yes, why?
    - Answer Here -

    Why do you think others bully?
    Because they are too cowardly to do things right or by themselves.

    Why do you think kids feel better when they bully others?
    It's like a flea. The host is suffering from home problems and in return makes someone else suffer so they don't feel alone.

Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers actually helpful? (In General) Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers helpful in your schools / schools around you? (In your area)
Not really

    Are parents doing too much or too little to help?
    None

    Can violence solve violence?
    Sometimes. >:D

    Do you have any helpful ideas that may reduce bullying / suicides due to bullying?
    >.> people being more alert.

    Do you know of anyone who comitted suicide due to bullying?
    Me almost

    Have you seen others being bullied?

1. If yes, did you help? If you did not, why? If you did help, how did you help?

2. If no, why not? Do you regret not helping?
    No. I was in a school that was well set up...

    Have you seen a good friend get bullied?
    Lets see... These might be stupid reasons but... When my character was a pup someone who hated her mother threw her off a cliff. She amazingly survived and found the black bloods. She joined them and every day people kept dissing her for being a black blood. When she became beta (best moment of life until...) she was attacked by her own pack. Why? Because they didn't respect her nor SirSteel. She was being over powered and plus the fall from her pup hood made her back leg bad so she had a twisted paw. She had to flee even if it was against the black bloods code. So she did and was lucky she only lost an ear. When she returned once those two were gone she found out she was stripped of her position as beta. (Moment I was royally ticked off!) And of the whole pack. Once SirSteel returns she plans to tell him about Bloodspill and Crow's betrayal to both me and Steel. (Something like they did doesn't go without revenge! I'm not going to be stripped of something I worked so hard for without protest!)
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: 12dollars on May 22, 2011, 10:05:55 am
What does the term Bullying mean to you?
Someone intentionally making someone feel bad for their own enjoyment

Have you been bullied in the past?
Yup

If yes, do you know why?
Mostly because I'm smart or because I draw dogs/wolves

Why do you think others bully?
Probably because they dont have it as well as others and bullying makes them feel like they have power

Why do you think kids feel better when they bully others?
Above ^ ^ ^

Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers actually helpful? (In General) Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers helpful in your schools / schools around you? (In your area)
Teachers usually say they will stop it but it doesnt really do anything. The only thing that would really stop the bully is if they were expelledw

Are parents doing too much or too little to help?
My mum gives great advice, and I'm not really picked on anymore. I dont know about others parents

Can violence solve violence?
Did war solve anything?

Do you have any helpful ideas that may reduce bullying / suicides due to bullying?
Haters gonna hate, so don't listen to them. The best you can do is make sure someone responsible is aware of whats going on and be yourself. Theres no point in trying to be someone your not!

Do you know of anyone who comitted suicide due to bullying?
My mothers uncle committed suicide because he was bullied (had difficulties reading and writing)

Have you seen others being bullied? 1. If yes, did you help? If you did not, why? If you did help, how did you help? 2. If no, why not? Do you regret not helping?
If me and my friends see something bad going on, we usually jump in there and walk away with the bullied victem, although I do admit sometimes I just had to leave it, there were already teachers there.

Have you seen a good friend get bullied?
Not at all, and hopefully never will. If they did however they could count on me to back them up
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: RavenShai on May 23, 2011, 06:57:54 am
((Unfortunately, I could not read all of the forms, to much reading and I currently have a head ache O.o
I did read some though, and I shall now present mine))

-What does the term Bullying mean to you?
A person picking on another to feel suppior, and to lower the other's selfesteem while they raise their own. Its a way where they feel like they are in power. This happens to both kids and adults, between a husband and a wife especially.


 -Have you been bullied in the past?
Yes, I have.


 -If yes, do you know why?
I never knew for sure, I had a few theories. One it could of been I was smart, I was recieving better grades then some of them (it was actually my entire class that was bullying me). Another could of been because the teacher liked me more. This was just because I followed the rules, did my work, and wasn't so loud. The last probably had to do with racism. At this time, I knew no spanish but all of them (or at least most) did. I knew a few of them didn't know spanish or were even that race, a good many were white like I was but I don't know why they picked on me if this was the case... I didn't even notice the race-difference until someone mentioned it to me. Or, it could of just been all of the above.


-Have you bullied in the past?
In a way, yes. It wasn't necessarily bullying but very close. I bullied my family.


-If yes, why?
I was always angry, for this was during the time I had been bullied. It was awful, I was picked on everyday. I had made a friend in that class during the beginning of the year, and we were great, but once the bullying took place she just abandoned me and joined in on the bullying. I was hurt and frustrated, I pratically prayed to be so sick the next day so that I wouldn't have to go to class. I had no siblings in the classroom, no friends... I was completely alone. So, when I got home I was always in a bad mood and took it out on everyone else.


-Why do you think others bully?
It could be for a lot of reasons, though in general I believe one of them is so they feel like they are in control. They want to feel like they have the power and that they could do whatever they want. Another reason could be because they are going through problems of their own, and they feel like they need to take out their anger and frustration out on another.


-Why do you think kids feel better when they bully others?
It relieves stress and anger, it helps them feel better and gain some self esteem because perhaps they had none. They feel like they can throw their problems away by inflincting problems on someone else, or at least escape them for a few moments.


-Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers actually helpful? (In General) Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers helpful in your schools / schools around you? (In your area)
In general, no, I believe everyone can put in more effort to stop the bullying, but apparently some feel they cannot be bothered.
Well, back at the school where I was being bullied at, yes and no. It took my mom's help, but the kid who started the bullying finally left me alone, though it was too late because she already got the entire class and some other kids to still pick on me.


-Are parents doing too much or too little to help?
Depends on the parent, but my mother helped a lot. She contacted the school herself and got them to do something about the bullying, and it made the year easier for me though I was still having trouble. She also helped after school by doing things that would help me feel better, like taking me for ice cream and such. She even came in to lunch with me, getting my brother and sister as well and taking us outside to eat so I wouldn't have to eat with my class, much to my relief.
To be honest, I don't see how parents could help to much unless they were trying to solve the problem when no one was being bullied or they confronted the kids themselves and told them off.


-Can violence solve violence?
I have a neutral opinion about this, in some cases, yes, I do believe violence solves violence. In others, no, more violence is not necessary and the issue can be solved in a different way.






-Do you have any helpful ideas that may reduce bullying / suicides due to bullying?
Not really, except telling everyone about the problems caused by bullying and if you have to, harrass them until they do something about it. Also, pease listen. Look for signs in a friend or someone you know that may show they are being bullied, and if they want to talk to you just please listen to them. I had wished I had someone to talk to back then. Also, do not answer with just: "Wow, that stinks," or "Thats bad." Give advice, help the person through, see them all the time and help them out. Let them know that they are not alone.


-Do you know of anyone who comitted suicide due to bullying?
No, thankfully, though I knew a friend or two who had been thinking about it, or others who had.





-Have you seen others being bullied? 1. If yes, did you help? If you did not, why? If you did help, how did you help? 2. If no, why not? Do you regret not helping?
No, I haven't really seen others being bullied, except perhaps once though it wasn't to bad. One kid was teasing another kid, and I stepped up and told them to knock it off and leave, and they left after a little of argueing with each other.


-Have you seen a good friend get bullied?
No
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Babe on May 23, 2011, 08:51:53 pm
I may sound weird, but I find this feedback interesting and useful, so thank you to those who have taken the time to answer these questions!
A friendly reminder that the subject of suicide, self harm, etc, is not a light one and to refrain from being too open about that sort of thing, especially in regards to yourself, and I will report and request staff to edit any posts that indicates suicidal thoughts from oneself, and PM them with links that are helpful to those sort of things.

I'm not too surprised at schools general lack of involvement. Although, I've sort of another question. Is it better for an adult to get involved with bullying situations or not?
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Ruby1234 on May 23, 2011, 10:32:14 pm
What does the term Bullying mean to you?
Bullying is when someone physically or verbally hurts one.

Have you been bullied in the past?
Yes, but not more than a few times

If yes, do you know why?
Nope

Have you bullied in the past?
Yes, but in good nature.

If yes, why?
I love to make anything a joke.

Why do you think others bully?
I think they do so to appeal to a group of "cool" beings.

Why do you think kids feel better when they bully others?
They get some sort of satisfaction out of it.

Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers actually helpful? (In General) Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers helpful in your schools / schools around you? (In your area)
There is a fine line here. In some cases, the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers, tell you to stop, and it ceases there, but when they are away, it resumes, or it's taken to someplace else. On the other hand, sometimes the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers tell you to stop, and you do, then the next day you forget all about it.

Are parents doing too much or too little to help?
Depends. Some parents have no involvement in their children's lives.

Can violence solve violence?
Not. Ever.

WARNING: The following two questions may be considered sensitive to some!



Do you have any helpful ideas that may reduce bullying / suicides due to bullying?
Suicide won't make anything better. And reduction of bullying seems nearly impossible.

Do you know of anyone who comitted suicide due to bullying?
Gladly, no. I hope it stays that way too.


End of sensitive questions (Depending on who you are / what you've gone through)!

Have you seen others being bullied? 1. If yes, did you help? If you did not, why? If you did help, how did you help? 2. If no, why not? Do you regret not helping?
I've seen plenty of bullying. I usually help. I go over there, tell them a few jokes make 'em laugh, make it all hahaha, and they forget about it by the end of the day.

Have you seen a good friend get bullied?
Nope. Not yet.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Rukata on May 25, 2011, 12:04:41 pm
What does the term Bullying mean to you?
Anyone who's picking on someone weaker than them, or someone who misuses their power to manipulate and hurt other people.

Have you been bullied in the past?
I was occasionally picked on in Elementary school, but it was worse in Middle School. In High School I learned martial arts and just fought anyone who bullied me or my friends, and won.

If yes, do you know why?
In elementary school, it was mostly because I was the smartest and ended up being a teacher's pet without wanting to. In Second grade the kids found out my parents were pagan which made it worse (it was a very Christian, republican, preppy town in the worst kind of way.) They found out from my 2nd grade teacher who hated me, she wouldn't let me read Harry Potter books because they were 'Satanic', and we had to do a little 'vote' for George Bush or John Kerry and she didn't like that I picked the democrat, and she said, "You would pick him - you're a witch." Yeah. Cue the bullying in 3.. 2.. 1..
In Fifth grade (still Elementary), I was framed for writing "Mrs. Blankityblank is a b*!%(" on an eraser that was taken from the desk I sat in math class (That teachers class), that was than partially destroyed and put into another kids desk in another part of the room. It was than that my mom and dad homeschooled me through the rest of 5th grade and all of 6th grade.
In Middle School, 7th grade, I was still with these same kids obviously. Then, someone who I trusted told a really dark secret of mine that happened just a few months before that caused my father to go to jail for 15 years, and it spread around the school. After that, me and my divorced mom moved to where we live now, and school life was fairly normal.

Have you bullied in the past?
I was too busy being Bullied.

Why do you think others bully?
To make them feel better about themselves.

Why do you think kids feel better when they bully others?
There's almost always a family/emotional problem they have and they do it because they're jealous or the need to take their anger out on someone else.

Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers actually helpful? (In General) Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers helpful in your schools / schools around you? (In your area)
They should be and Not really, but they don't allow bullying so..

Are parents doing too much or too little to help?
Parents in General do too little to help, but kids sometimes don't tell their parents; so they have no idea there's even a problem.

Can violence solve violence?
No, it doesn't, and it's wrong. I'm a bad example in the violence department, guys. It only solved my problems because I couldn't take it anymore and had multiple shrinks saying, "Well, she can't control her anger, and they have to aggravate her to make her get mad enough to attack."

Do you have any helpful ideas that may reduce bullying / suicides due to bullying?
If you're being bullied, there's no excuse for you to not tell someone. You can tell your parents, a school counselor, or anyone else who you trust.

Do you know of anyone who committed suicide due to bullying?
I nearly did, and my close friend jumped off a bridge, but I saw him from where I was nearby and called an ambulance. He did manage to live.


Have you seen others being bullied? 1. If yes, did you help? If you did not, why? If you did help, how did you help? 2. If no, why not? Do you regret not helping?
Yes, I told the bully to knock it off, and they told me to mind my own business. I told him again to stop, getting between the two of them. He tried to punch me and I grabbed his wrist and flipped him onto the ground, and managed to break his wrist when I did it (I really didn't mean to though.) A teacher heard the loud thump and came into the hallway, and I explained what happened. I didn't get in trouble, but I easily could have.

Have you seen a good friend get bullied?

Yes, see story above.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Robin_Wolfieh on May 25, 2011, 12:51:07 pm
Although, I've sort of another question. Is it better for an adult to get involved with bullying situations or not?

I think so. Mostly for moral support.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: HIGURASHI Alice on May 28, 2011, 09:14:55 pm
   What does the term Bullying mean to you?
    Intentionally offending or harassing others.

    Have you been bullied in the past?
   I was /always/ bullied. .-.

    If yes, do you know why?

    Yuh. I reacted.

    Have you bullied in the past?
      No. Or, I can't remember.

    If yes, why?

    If anything, I don't bully someone unless they deserve it LOL. A gift and curse; being a big-build, I could 'bully' those who bullied my friends. 8B Of course, never violently. But more of a "RAWR GO AWAY LOL"

    Why do you think others bully?
    I believe it was because they are; angered, frustrated or annoyed at something that may reoccur in their lives. Unable to vent it out on; drawing, colouring, writing, video games and other similar examples; they vent it out on others.
Some do it because it's the "cool" thing to do.
Some for the lulz.

    Why do you think kids feel better when they bully others?
    Because they affected someone emotionally or made them feel vulnerable, making themselves feel superior to them.

    Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers actually helpful? (In General) Are the administrators / school disciplinary / assistances / teachers helpful in your schools / schools around you? (In your area)

    Only for moral support, really. I think kiddies need to actually LISTEN to when people say "DON'T REACT TO BULLIES"

    Are parents doing too much or too little to help?
    Too much, too little, and everything in between. Depends on the parents. 8u

    Can violence solve violence?

    Only if the goal is annihilation. 8u

    WARNING: The following two questions may be considered sensitive to some!


    Do you have any helpful ideas that may reduce bullying / suicides due to bullying?

    Listen.

    Do you know of anyone who comitted suicide due to bullying?
    I might of known them some way or another, but /I/ don't actually know.


    End of sensitive questions (Depending on who you are / what you've gone through)!

    Have you seen others being bullied? 1. If yes, did you help? If you did not, why? If you did help, how did you help? 2. If no, why not? Do you regret not helping?

   Yes. I went rawr. They started bullying me instead. That wasn't my desired solution, but I'd always rather it was me than my friends. xD

    Have you seen a good friend get bullied?
    Yeup.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: RavenShai on May 28, 2011, 10:39:24 pm

 Although, I've sort of another question. Is it better for an adult to get involved with bullying situations or not?

I think they should get involved, but not so much where their child feels like they are overly protective and just suffocating them. If that happens, it may just have an opposite affect.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Maryritai on May 28, 2011, 10:42:01 pm
I been bullied by people who say they are my friends. They got me in trouble and toyed around me because I LOOK LIKED A NERD!. Would You really say a Girl with Glasses and Braces are nerd?

Actually, I am pretty smart but I know lots of girls in my class who are smarter than me and I don't always do my Homework. I been bullied all my life, called Yellow Teeth, Bucked Teeth, Bad eyes, you name it.

And I only got my Glasses and Braces last year!
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: okami129 on May 29, 2011, 12:46:43 am
Poor DA! Just punch them if they bully you. It works for me.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Maryritai on May 29, 2011, 01:35:34 am
Hmph. It learned Taekwondo ages ago instead of last year, Hell, I could beat all their asses and they wouldn't even have bothered me.

And I'm Short, So That makes it worse. They pick on me because I'm smaller and more sensitive and emotional!. Even my Teacher says They're not surprised I was bullied!.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Raz. on May 29, 2011, 03:53:25 am
...Violence is a terrible way to solve your problems.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Maryritai on May 29, 2011, 04:15:01 am
But what can you do? Parents and Teachers help but they not very helpful, especially if they hate you.
So you gotta defend yourself. It like your saying They can rape me but I can't make them go for jail for that.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: RavenShai on May 29, 2011, 04:52:24 am
Violence isn't the best solution, I admit, but sometimes necessary...

It should be the last thing to do, but if you have to defend yourself then yeah, fight back. But you shouldn't be the one to throw the first punch, only when your defending yourself.
The best way is to try your best to ignore them, show it doesn't affect you and they leave you alone. Thats what the kids were doing to be in fifth grade, but after that and in later grades I ignored the bullying and soon it stopped completely. If all else fails, maybe moving to a different school will help. 
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Maryritai on May 29, 2011, 05:27:46 am
I look back at old self, The Little Kid Self and I realized How Foolish I was. I brushed it aside as nothing, seeing the world innocently and purely. I still became friends with them, even thou they teased me. Back then, My Mind was too young and Pure to comprehend that they were teasing me by the way that I looked.

That all changed in Year 5. I became more rebelliant and often retaliate at the words of boys who would pick on me, Girls as well. People who laughed at me because They thought I was ugly, But They weren't even pretty inside. I was even bullied online, People making me feel like I didn't belong, They almost made me rethink that Even The Internet wasn't good enough for me.

That's when I discovered Roleplaying. It was Good But It was also bad. Because My First Year of RPing, A Friend of Mine got angry at me, I got angry at him for being ticked off over nothing. And That's when I lost all my Roleplaying Friends, Because They were his friends and They hated me. That's why before Everything was resolved with Okami, I thought back to the Two Sites That I use to be on. That the same incident happened like My First Year of RPing. I thought It was curse, That it would always happen.

Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Raz. on May 29, 2011, 05:57:16 am
But what can you do? Parents and Teachers help but they not very helpful, especially if they hate you.
So you gotta defend yourself. It like your saying They can rape me but I can't make them go for jail for that.
Ignore it.

Violence isn't the best solution, I admit, but sometimes necessary...

It should be the last thing to do, but if you have to defend yourself then yeah, fight back. But you shouldn't be the one to throw the first punch, only when your defending yourself.

Yeah, randomly beating the hell out of someone because of something they said in my opinion puts you on the same level as the bully. It's an immature reaction/action.
Of course if they start seriously beating you up, you do have a right to self defense.

If people start calling you names and such just ignore it, don't clock them over the head.
If you ignore it you'll come off as the mature one.

If you react to bullies it's just fuelling their fire, they'll know it's affecting you and just keep going. However if you ignore it and stop reacting they'll stop because you're no longer fuelling their fire.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: Kyugima on May 29, 2011, 06:06:56 am
  I stopped reacting to bullies long ago in primary school, but I was stilled bullied until I finshed school. Not reacting doesn't help at all. They still find it hailarious to bully and push you around. But that just might be me, maybe it's just fun to bully me so what ever works for you doesn't work for me.
Title: Re: Bullying (Serious Topic - Please Be Respectful!)
Post by: RavenShai on May 29, 2011, 06:34:47 am
Yeah, that sometimes happens even after you ignore them. If so, then you try standing up for yourself, though in a way that shows you are unaffected, like saying a few smart comments back. What I find works at times is wait for a bit while the bully is picking on you, then in a nonchalant way, maybe with a shrug of your shoulders or a smirk say a very smart a** comment and turn and walk away.

You have to be careful though, because this could backfire and you will juust make an enemy(ies), though that won't really matter much if they have already been picking on you. Another thing to do is tell a teacher you trust. At times, a teacher won't really do much but if you tell a teacher you really trust or at least enough to do the job, they willl do something about it. Really, there is at least one teacher in an  entire school that does care about students and will do something about it to help them if any are being bullied or having any sort of trouble. The trick is finding and telling the right one.