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I just joined a community somewhere and it seemed all fine until I joined there chat and mentioned roleplay... Then I felt like everyone was attacking me for enjoying roleplay, I did not want to start with anyone so I just left, but it is hurtful how much hate I got for just asking if there is a roleplay channel in the group. Like I have seen people hate on others for being emo, being gay, and so on, but just liking roleplay? I guess I forgot some people misunderstand roleplayers and hate on them for no reason, since I roleplay with people online so much, these people did not really seem to understand it... One person would not shut up about how cringy it was, another person said they hated it because they use to do it with their ex or someone they were attracted to, another acted like it was for kids... I guess I forgot how rude and ignorant people can be about certain things, it was pretty clear to me that people did not seem to understand it, so that upsets me that the reason they hate it is because they don't understand it. You can't hate someone or something just because you think it is only -Removed by Moderator- or some crap like that... I need some help here, I am upset and I just was reminded one of the reasons I hate people...
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unfortunately, there are some people out there who do compare roleplaying to playing pretend as a child, however they seem to not realise that roleplaying is a fantastic way to develop and practice writing skills. you'd have to be one of the fairly few creative types in order to come up with a paragraph or so on the spot like that. not to mention, it's super fun once you get into it! i've definitely noticed that i can write stories a lot faster and easier ever since i got into roleplaying, so english class is a breeze for me. i'd advise not to take much notice of some of those people, and maybe they better think twice about their words, because there is a lot of educational potential in roleplaying! roleplaying is anything but cringy.
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Definitely agree with Tea! ^
And Yeah, I got some backlash from people who didn't know what RP was, but most of the people who talk trash about anything creative, are the same people who say, "reading is garbage". Literally, RPing has sharpened my writing skills so much, I forget that it's actually really hard to write things on the spot...
But then I began to write essays and I remember what that felt like... xD It's difficult and a lot of people think writing a paragraph is difficult too! It comes with practice, for sure! And the people putting you down were probably a lot less mature. You said you were 19, right? So you're mature enough to see outside the box, rather than underdeveloped kids. Don't beat yourself up about it, be glad that you're becoming a great writer! That's a skill any job would love!
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Yeah, some people think roleplay only consists of the nasty stuff and overlook how much of a great practice for writing and general grammar exercise it is. I really wouldn't speak english as fluenty if it weren't for roleplay. It's just like the furry community- If you say furry, they say nasty, only because they saw the minority of the community (the +18 one) which sadly is the one that shows the most. It's really sad because people are very quick to judge whitout setting afoot into the other person's perspectives, i know this may sound cliché but i wanna say that its like the moon- It will always have a dark side and a shining side, nothing can be entirely good, just less or more bad.
Try to specify what kind of roleplay you're talking about? Because from what they said i am most definitely sure they misunderstood what roleplay you're talking about. Not the nasty kind, i betcha.
If they were talking about roleplays-roleplays, just explain to them shortly that roleplaying with someone is like making a story with them- You get to write a deep character and both players also enhance their skills (character development, writing speed, grammar, formal writing, etc...) And that if done right it can be considered healthy because it could help you give you new skills and abroad new paths in your workplace, industry or just your field of work (Say, in the future, you have to write a convincing letter to a business to propose something. In such case, then, you'd be capable of writing something convincing with barely any grammar mistakes (hopefully), and all of it because you strenghtened your abilities through something you enjoy doing.) This is especially a good practice for when trying to learn a foreign language, because through the constant repetition and (if your partner speaks the language you're attempting to learn, correction too) execution of words that are foreign to oneself, you start getting used to speaking them and, although your speaking and pronounciation could be a little risky, you can be safe that if you were on the countries that speak that language, you could handle yourself decently, even if its just through written means.
That was just my cent on the pot, and i hope you liked my reply!
xoxo
- Sophy
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It seems your facing alot. Don't feel so hang up over it.
What you really need to do is look for roleplays around your age. Clearly, you're was dealing with little children who like to judge, if i'm understand correctly. I'm sure you can find some roleplays around your age or to your liking. Its going to be hard but not impossible. Overall you're going to see judgemental people. Best i can say is ignore and move on to another community.
Just practice your writing skills and just be the best you can be. Sorry if I misunderstood your first post.
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Protip, don't mention it in front of strangers. If you go back to that community, just pretend you didn't say it & never mention it again.
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A lot of outsiders think roleplay has something to do with sex (see: OwO what's this???) or something that nerds with a lot of time on their hands do. They don't think that roleplay takes a lot of thought and motivation and it's technically another form of storytelling. It's improvisation and a lot of theater kids do it, except it's on the internet.
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It seems your facing alot. Don't feel so hang up over it.
What you really need to do is look for roleplays around your age. Clearly, you're was dealing with little children who like to judge, if i'm understand correctly. I'm sure you can find some roleplays around your age or to your liking. Its going to be hard but not impossible. Overall you're going to see judgemental people. Best i can say is ignore and move on to another community.
Just practice your writing skills and just be the best you can be. Sorry if I misunderstood your first post.
Well my type of roleplay that I enjoy consist of animal rp like wolves, fandom rp like sonic or pokemon, and anime rp like fairy tail and vampire knight, to give a few examples. It is not easy to find people my age who like the stuff I do, but they are out there I am friends with a few 17 to 18 years olds and even some 20 some year olds. I don't like thinking of it age wise because I have met a lot of people, not all under 18 people are bad, some are pretty sensible and those are the ones I call friends.
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Protip, don't mention it in front of strangers. If you go back to that community, just pretend you didn't say it & never mention it again.
Well in my opinion that would be lying about who I am. I refuse to not be true to myself and my interests I take pride in my roleplay and I am glad I can enjoy it. So I will not be pretending that, though I see what you mean and I can kind of see your point. But that is just not who I am so I will not lie and pretend I know nothing of it.
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It seems your facing alot. Don't feel so hang up over it.
What you really need to do is look for roleplays around your age. Clearly, you're was dealing with little children who like to judge, if i'm understand correctly. I'm sure you can find some roleplays around your age or to your liking. Its going to be hard but not impossible. Overall you're going to see judgemental people. Best i can say is ignore and move on to another community.
Just practice your writing skills and just be the best you can be. Sorry if I misunderstood your first post.
Well my type of roleplay that I enjoy consist of animal rp like wolves, fandom rp like sonic or pokemon, and anime rp like fairy tail and vampire knight, to give a few examples. It is not easy to find people my age who like the stuff I do, but they are out there I am friends with a few 17 to 18 years olds and even some 20 some year olds. I don't like thinking of it age wise because I have met a lot of people, not all under 18 people are bad, some are pretty sensible and those are the ones I call friends.
You have a point there. +Nuzzle
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To be honest, I'm not surprised about the hate when it comes to roleplaying.
It can be brought into some negative light and all but at the same time, I wouldn't worry about it. Some people could just have bad experiences with it and don't think much of it, while others don't fully understand the benefits to it when it's actually taken seriously as mentioned above. It can help or even hinder people.
To be honest, if that's how they wish to think about it, then that's them. Roleplaying to a degree can be pretty annoying ( although it's extremely rare that I see it as that ), but that's just me. <3
All and all, sorry you had to experience something like that though. Leaving was a pretty good option in your case to avoid the negativity.
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Yeah some people are very judgmental. If they've had a bad experience with roleplaying before and decided not to do it again, then anytime it is mentioned, they will think of it in bad light according to what they've experienced. It's like the Furry Fandom. Me as a new member of the furry fandom, I come across a LOT of people who like to insult me and call me hurtful things like Furfag and say that I'm just plain nasty or mentally insane, just because of being interested in furries. That's because they've only seen or heard about the 18+ side (you know.. the side where some people use Fur Suits as a form of sexual outfitting as some people "blind date" with it but it's really just going to a random place and having sex with other furries in the suits), but they've never thought about going into more details and actually getting to know the good side of the fandom. If you really look into it, the majority of the furry community is rather friendly and welcoming. Some of my best friends are furries and they're the nicest people I know who are always there for me. Like most things, everything has a good side and a dark side, and unfortunately people these days just decide to judge something for its bad side. Like that show called My Crazy Ex. I recently told my mom that I'm getting into the Furry fandom, and then she was watching the show (it's one of her favorite shows) and the episode was on a guy cheating with his girlfriend having sex with other furries in the fur suits (and believing that he's an animal) and after watching the episode, she started arguing with me saying that she will not allow me to become like that and saying that I'm sick and that I'm mentally insane if I'm a furry... Unfortunately for me, after learning about the bad side of the fandom, no matter what I do, she refuses to let me at least explain the good side of the community because her mind is now set on her new opinion of Furries (This is why I hate "My Crazy Ex".....). Thankfully my aunt is more understanding and she is happy that I'm in a community that makes me happy and is full of people with similar interests as me.
No matter what we do, people will always judge things by its bad side and the best we can do is ignore them and continue to do what we love. Cuz we're not about to give up who we are because of people and their nasty comments about us and our interests! >:(
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Might be preaching to the choir a little here, but not everyone is going to like when strangers are poking around in their roleplays. Fortunately and unfortunately for I, there have been people both happy and accepting toward me in roleplay and other who weren't as so. I mainly wander around and find any interesting characters, or any that I feel would be worth trying. I have never had anyone OOC judge me, or so I think. However, IC, users like to call Wolfie a "fleabag," "mutt," which is completely fine, but not when I have barely begun to introduce her. Wolfie could be a beautiful purebred that gets pampered three times a week! Granted she isn't, but you see what I am trying to say?
For people who have had bad experiences in prior times, I can understand if they don't care to roleplay. Still, that does not give them any right to bash someone for doing it. I have had bad experiences in rolelplay groups, and many that I have quit due to the immaturity among the members; I do not dwell on the past. Just because I encountered a few bad apples, doesn't mean my passion for writing and character building will diminish. It's hard for me to say to not care what people think, say, or do to you, but that's the best advice I am able to give. Many others above me have said the same thing, I am sure, but it's not wrong to have it hammered into your brain for the future.
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Hmmm. To be honest, I don't think I've ever experienced major backlash for my wanting to rp. Maybe a few times, but I don't really remember them in detail. Maybe, try to find communities that are all for roleplaying & seek other roleplayers instead? because that's what I've tried to do for the past few years & I've had some major success. Although, I do remember mentioning to my friends outside of my RP communities that I enjoyed it, & they did make fun of me a little. but it wasn't in a horribly mean way, so it's alright. They just... don't understand, I guess?
Unfortunately, I think that a lot of people have this view on the internet now. Even people on my RP SERVER in WoW will complain about roleplayers like ???? That's literally what this server is for, haha. You're never going to please everybody, unfortunately, & if those other people are being THAT rude to you when they obviously know you like it, they are not true friends & you should look for nicer people anyways. but yes, sometimes admitting that you like roleplay will result in some backlash. It's not fair & it's not nice, but this is the internet. :( Being nice is not a requirement unfortunately.
But that doesn't mean you should stop seeking for other, new people & communities to rp with! Just... not everyone is going to be nice about it sometimes. but some people will! It's kind of a 50/50 chance.
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Yeah some people are very judgmental. If they've had a bad experience with roleplaying before and decided not to do it again, then anytime it is mentioned, they will think of it in bad light according to what they've experienced. It's like the Furry Fandom. Me as a new member of the furry fandom, I come across a LOT of people who like to insult me and call me hurtful things like Furfag and say that I'm just plain nasty or mentally insane, just because of being interested in furries. That's because they've only seen or heard about the 18+ side (you know.. the side where some people use Fur Suits as a form of sexual outfitting as some people "blind date" with it but it's really just going to a random place and having sex with other furries in the suits), but they've never thought about going into more details and actually getting to know the good side of the fandom. If you really look into it, the majority of the furry community is rather friendly and welcoming. Some of my best friends are furries and they're the nicest people I know who are always there for me. Like most things, everything has a good side and a dark side, and unfortunately people these days just decide to judge something for its bad side. Like that show called My Crazy Ex. I recently told my mom that I'm getting into the Furry fandom, and then she was watching the show (it's one of her favorite shows) and the episode was on a guy cheating with his girlfriend having sex with other furries in the fur suits (and believing that he's an animal) and after watching the episode, she started arguing with me saying that she will not allow me to become like that and saying that I'm sick and that I'm mentally insane if I'm a furry... Unfortunately for me, after learning about the bad side of the fandom, no matter what I do, she refuses to let me at least explain the good side of the community because her mind is now set on her new opinion of Furries (This is why I hate "My Crazy Ex".....). Thankfully my aunt is more understanding and she is happy that I'm in a community that makes me happy and is full of people with similar interests as me.
No matter what we do, people will always judge things by its bad side and the best we can do is ignore them and continue to do what we love. Cuz we're not about to give up who we are because of people and their nasty comments about us and our interests! >:(
I am part of the furry fandom as well and not the more gross side of it, I know all to well how it can be with people. I am sorry you had to deal with that, one time I almost beat the crap out of someone for harassing my friend who was a furry and being mean to them just because they where part of the fandom.
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Might be preaching to the choir a little here, but not everyone is going to like when strangers are poking around in their roleplays. Fortunately and unfortunately for I, there have been people both happy and accepting toward me in roleplay and other who weren't as so. I mainly wander around and find any interesting characters, or any that I feel would be worth trying. I have never had anyone OOC judge me, or so I think. However, IC, users like to call Wolfie a "fleabag," "mutt," which is completely fine, but not when I have barely begun to introduce her. Wolfie could be a beautiful purebred that gets pampered three times a week! Granted she isn't, but you see what I am trying to say?
For people who have had bad experiences in prior times, I can understand if they don't care to roleplay. Still, that does not give them any right to bash someone for doing it. I have had bad experiences in rolelplay groups, and many that I have quit due to the immaturity among the members; I do not dwell on the past. Just because I encountered a few bad apples, doesn't mean my passion for writing and character building will diminish. It's hard for me to say to not care what people think, say, or do to you, but that's the best advice I am able to give. Many others above me have said the same thing, I am sure, but it's not wrong to have it hammered into your brain for the future.
This is just a discussion, no need to start lectures on how "Not everyone likes the same thing" most of us probably know this, this is not about people who just don't like it, it is about people who straight up harass and bully others for their interest, VARY different subject.
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Yeah some people are very judgmental. If they've had a bad experience with roleplaying before and decided not to do it again, then anytime it is mentioned, they will think of it in bad light according to what they've experienced. It's like the Furry Fandom. Me as a new member of the furry fandom, I come across a LOT of people who like to insult me and call me hurtful things like Furfag and say that I'm just plain nasty or mentally insane, just because of being interested in furries. That's because they've only seen or heard about the 18+ side (you know.. the side where some people use Fur Suits as a form of sexual outfitting as some people "blind date" with it but it's really just going to a random place and having sex with other furries in the suits), but they've never thought about going into more details and actually getting to know the good side of the fandom. If you really look into it, the majority of the furry community is rather friendly and welcoming. Some of my best friends are furries and they're the nicest people I know who are always there for me. Like most things, everything has a good side and a dark side, and unfortunately people these days just decide to judge something for its bad side. Like that show called My Crazy Ex. I recently told my mom that I'm getting into the Furry fandom, and then she was watching the show (it's one of her favorite shows) and the episode was on a guy cheating with his girlfriend having sex with other furries in the fur suits (and believing that he's an animal) and after watching the episode, she started arguing with me saying that she will not allow me to become like that and saying that I'm sick and that I'm mentally insane if I'm a furry... Unfortunately for me, after learning about the bad side of the fandom, no matter what I do, she refuses to let me at least explain the good side of the community because her mind is now set on her new opinion of Furries (This is why I hate "My Crazy Ex".....). Thankfully my aunt is more understanding and she is happy that I'm in a community that makes me happy and is full of people with similar interests as me.
No matter what we do, people will always judge things by its bad side and the best we can do is ignore them and continue to do what we love. Cuz we're not about to give up who we are because of people and their nasty comments about us and our interests! >:(
Please keep in mind that while it's okay to discuss your personal experiences on a thread like this one, content should be kept age-appropriate, and references to sexual material shouldn't be mentioned here on the forum. (Please look here (https://feral-heart.com/smf/index.php?topic=59897.0) for forum rules.)
This is just a discussion, no need to start lectures on how "Not everyone likes the same thing" most of us probably know this, this is not about people who just don't like it, it is about people who straight up harass and bully others for their interest, VARY different subject.
I think Wolvie was trying to add her two cents on the subject-- there are lots of different ways you can approach the topic. Taking some parts and highlighting others to enlighten some aspect of the subject can help bring about different ways of looking at an incident. c:
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Some people just dislike things due to experiences or what they have heard. Roleplaying is an great way to develop worlds, lore and writing skills and help others and inspire them to create their own.
However, it may due to be of things they saw, such as gore and more explicit themes being roleplayed and them thinking all roleplays were like that. Just put in my two cents.
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Are you kidding? I fricking love roleplay! If people gave me hell for it I honestly wouldn't care. It inspires so many of my stories I've come up with and it makes such a huge difference to how I think about things. Life lessons with Senrova - Don't let others opinions bring you down from doing what you love ;D 👍
I know that sounded lame but there's my thoughts for you ;)
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true to yourself or not, you don't have to wear your heart on your sleeve.
some people don't share the same interests and are more vocal about it than others.
either ignore it or avoid it if it's such an issue.