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Title: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: JackobLoveu on February 22, 2013, 02:01:37 pm
Sorry if this is in the wrong section

Okay, I quite saw this or experience this before. Anyway, I be seeing people who walk up to their so call "friends" and say hi, but no answered. Okay I understand if you are Be Right Back (BRB). But when another friend comes out, which is your besty, and talks to them or even on whisper. Then your friend realizes they don't remember you saying hi, so you'll say hi. Then the friend will go back to the conversation with their other friend. I also understand they're not your friend, so they don't talk to you. But when you and your friend be talking on the forum (of course PM)  you'll be talking about mostly everything or even lie about what just happened in the game, when you were right there!. Isn't that kind strange? They don't talk you on the game but only the forum..What? (This also happens in school) This is what I really hate. (You must notice I didn't usernames, because If I did it'll be a war on this forum or something)
Advice to stay/solved away from this problem:
-Just ignore them
-Just tell how you feel
-Take them out from your friends list (If you want)
-Just go to other friends
-If you're new and others are being disrespectful, see me c: (If you want)
(If you have any more suggestion..Comment below)
Thank you for reading and understanding this problem. c: (Sorry if this confusing..Bad grammar)
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: nicekind on February 22, 2013, 02:07:48 pm
I think same I hate when someone is someones fake friend or something....
It's just really sad... Also to people who do that if someone says hi to you start talking with him/her
even if you don't remember him/her.
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: JackobLoveu on February 22, 2013, 02:13:12 pm
I think same I hate when someone is someones fake friend or something....
It's just really sad... Also to people who do that if someone says hi to you start talking with him/her
even if you don't remember him/her.

Yes it is. I really hate when people do this stuff, or sometimes even lie to you about certain things. >.< Grr! I wish this stops, especially if your in a popular FeralHeart group. >.<
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: Hallucination on February 22, 2013, 07:58:34 pm
I'll admit, I got in to a bad situation with a friend once.

It had been a long day, I hadn't been alone, something had come up at school made it carry over. I think we had to wait for the roads to get cleared off or something. But I had been on late, and apparently, I had set up a certain time to return, and was unable to come at that particular time. So they started to ignore me for it, but yet when I went to where they were, they were talking with all these other people. In fact, they even told them to disregard me being there publicly.It was like; "If you missed me that much, why the floof do you ignore me now."
Oh the irony.

From the Shadows ~ Hallucination
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: JackobLoveu on February 22, 2013, 08:36:02 pm
>.< People just think your better you, but they be doing the wrong mistakes. But you can learn from those. (Am I being off topic?) But ya. These people are just fools.
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: whitesnow on February 22, 2013, 09:34:00 pm
I agree with you, Thrillex. I had a lot of issues like this in RL even now when my 'best friend' is trying to steal my crush from me! I-I think he likes her too and I think i'm too late, I know him WAY better than SHE does, he doesn't understand that I'm the one for him, It's not fair. :'( I also honestly feel like i'm a bad friend, Thrill which I don't wanna be, I really don't. If the person you're talking about is me, I am very sorry for being inactive and I'll talk to you more. If 'm not well, correct me.
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: Ingredient on February 22, 2013, 09:50:44 pm
I can relate to this, I've experienced many times in-game and in real life. It's quite confusing when people do this because you don't know if they are friends or not. One day they talk to you the next they're ignoring you then later are with you again. After introducing a friend of mine to the forum that person has met many new people with all different positions/ranks and now I'm merely just "a friend", maybe considered less than that... I wouldn't say we're best friends anymore. I can still remember how we met and all the fun times we had together, that person probably doesn't.

I remember a time in Fluorite when my "friend" was online and was sitting at the N/Z. She was sitting with some other friends and when I said hello they told me she was afk. I sat next to her and waited for a "I'm back! C:" but no, nothing. Her friends weren't saying anything either, I was assuming they were all in Party or Group chat. Then a few moments later my friend poofed. She didn't disconnect, lose connection or anything. Just disappeared and her three friends starting heading off towards the Stonebridge. I was blocked. Yep, I could tell this person didn't want anything to do with me anymore.
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: whitesnow on February 22, 2013, 09:54:04 pm
What a meanie! D:< I hate people like that >.<
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: JackobLoveu on February 22, 2013, 10:05:11 pm
I agree with you, Thrillex. I had a lot of issues like this in RL even now when my 'best friend' is trying to steal my crush from me! I-I think he likes her too and I think i'm too late, I know him WAY better than SHE does, he doesn't understand that I'm the one for him, It's not fair. :'( I also honestly feel like i'm a bad friend, Thrill which I don't wanna be, I really don't. If the person you're talking about is me, I am very sorry for being inactive and I'll talk to you more. If 'm not well, correct me.
 
I can relate to this, I've experienced many times in-game and in real life. It's quite confusing when people do this because you don't know if they are friends or not. One day they talk to you the next they're ignoring you then later are with you again. After introducing a friend of mine to the forum that person has met many new people with all different positions/ranks and now I'm merely just "a friend", maybe considered less than that... I wouldn't say we're best friends anymore. I can still remember how we met and all the fun times we had together, that person probably doesn't.

I remember a time in Fluorite when my "friend" was online and was sitting at the N/Z. She was sitting with some other friends and when I said hello they told me she was afk. I sat next to her and waited for a "I'm back! C:" but no, nothing. Her friends weren't saying anything either, I was assuming they were all in Party or Group chat. Then a few moments later my friend poofed. She didn't disconnect, lose connection or anything. Just disappeared and her three friends starting heading off towards the Stonebridge. I was blocked. Yep, I could tell this person didn't want anything to do with me anymore.


When people ignore me or pretend to be my friend, on how their acting, it makes me cry.>,<
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: LordSuragaha on February 22, 2013, 10:25:38 pm
I think I understand what you're saying and although I might get a lot of hate for what I am about to say I am not ashamed to say it especially since I've been through this FAR too MANY times. I usually tend to stay shut about things since I am a very patient and understanding person and I like to pick my fights, but since you bring up this topic I may as well use it as an opportunity to express myself.

I will not say name(s) but I have met some really awesome and fun people on this forum that I used to hang out with in game quite often. We would talk and fool around all the time and one could say we had become very close friends. In this case there was one particular person I often socialized with and enjoyed spending time with. This person was one of my first friends on my return to the community who made me feel welcomed and introduced me to many of their other friends. This particular person was also not very popular with the community around the time I met them but soon enough they became so which is understandable because this person had such a loveable personality but after a while this person let it get to their head. They started to neglect many of their former friends for these new friends. I was one of the friends they neglected. Naturally I was a little sad that this friend had started to ignore me but I didn't think much of it. I have many other friends to socialize with so one leaving is not such a big deal especially since I understand everyone has their days that they want to socialize and days that they don't but being rude about it is a whole different picture and that is what this person started to become.

This person started spending a lot of time around the mods and when ever I would see them I'd pass by and say hello or sometimes try to make small talk still since they were my friend but they would instead totally ignore me and continue talking with their group of friends and only greet particular people including the mods. Let me make something clear here before I go on:

I have no problem with the mods or admins. I like and even love some of the mods and admin but what I do have a problem with is people who treat them like they are the only individuals worth any attention in this community. I do not like the type of individuals who play a role around the staff but mistreat or have favoritism and select kindness to everyone else including their own friends the moment they are around the staff. These individuals start to act like they are above other members in the community when in truth we are all part of one whole and should treat one another like we are. Even I have never been mistreated like this by a staff member. No matter how many individuals they have to deal with in a day I have never been ignored by a mod or admin and they do not act as snobbish superiors to the community as some of these non staff individuals do. My point here is if you are kind to forum staff then you should be kind to everyone not just ignore or ditch your former friends or so called "noobs" in the community to just focus all your attention to the staff. People like that that ditch for a particular group of individuals over another are not true friends. I have never done this myself. Sometimes I admit I get overwhelmed by my friends because everyone starts talking at once and I'm not always so good at juggling everyone's conversations simultaneously, but I at least try my best to acknowledge each one. A true friend doesn't ignore or have select friendship. I love all my friends and everyone in this community even non friends and staff alike. A lot of other people need to learn to do the same.
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: JackobLoveu on February 22, 2013, 10:34:46 pm
No,Caylis! Don't say that! You're fine. :) It's just people in the game and they reaction of pretending to have a friend. (What I've experience today, but it's not you) -Hugs-

LordSura@: Aww Sura. Thanks for this example. But this people,you know are just..something..But yeah you get my point.
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: snowdonice on February 22, 2013, 11:26:24 pm
I remember the time when I whispered hello to one of my friends and he doesnt remember me any more D:
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: greenart6 on February 23, 2013, 12:44:02 am
What really makes me mad is that you get random friend requests. I looked down and there was a friend request, and I was just sitting there, not talking or rping or anything. Once I accepted a request from someone who I didn't even know then I come on the next day as my lion Ghinjo, and she comes up to me: Ghinjo! :D" Me: (thinking) wtf? I don't even know who you are and what do you want? Then the girl just went and walked off with her friend. I also hate that when you're in an rp that your friend will whisper you: Hi. ITS SO ANNOYING having to switch chats and miss parts of the rp just to say HI. D:<
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: whitesnow on February 23, 2013, 12:59:40 am
Thanks, Thrill for the kind words, I know we'll be here for you, we always were, always are and always will be! <3
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: JackobLoveu on February 23, 2013, 05:21:29 am
I remember the time when I whispered hello to one of my friends and he doesnt remember me any more D:
Wow. Disrespectful. >.<


What really makes me mad is that you get random friend requests. I looked down and there was a friend request, and I was just sitting there, not talking or rping or anything. Once I accepted a request from someone who I didn't even know then I come on the next day as my lion Ghinjo, and she comes up to me: Ghinjo! :D" Me: (thinking) wtf? I don't even know who you are and what do you want? Then the girl just went and walked off with her friend. I also hate that when you're in an rp that your friend will whisper you: Hi. ITS SO ANNOYING having to switch chats and miss parts of the rp just to say HI. D:<

I know how you feel. This also happened to me. >.<

Thanks, Thrill for the kind words, I know we'll be here for you, we always were, always are and always will be! <3
>3 Thanks Caylis. You're a great friend and companion friend to talk to. <3
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: Ingredient on February 23, 2013, 05:40:42 am
I remember the time when I whispered hello to one of my friends and he doesnt remember me any more D:

I hate it when people do that to you.

"Hello :D Long time no see, bro!"

"Who the hell are you?"

Leaves me miserable for the rest of the day.
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: JackobLoveu on February 23, 2013, 05:50:08 am
I remember the time when I whispered hello to one of my friends and he doesnt remember me any more D:

I hate it when people do that to you.

"Hello :D Long time no see, bro!"

"Who the hell are you?"

Leaves me miserable for the rest of the day.

Totally agree. Like random people add you, and you just have to accept, then when you see them onine. You said hey and said Who are you? And you said "Uh you added me remember" Then they lie..Ect.
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: Nemena on February 23, 2013, 02:45:56 pm
Did someone say random friend requests? :D

(http://i.imgur.com/WnO8i35.png)

I agree that being ignored by a friend is upsetting-- it's happened to me on my other RPG (roleplaying partner found a new group of friends and left me in the cold; the usual)! Whilst people are inevitably closer to some friends than others, it's no reason to blatantly ignore someone who quips a 'Hello'-- unless they're afk, busy or mid-roleplay and such! I try to respond to everyone, friend or not, though I'll admit it's difficult when you're in the middle of a paragraph of text.

Though, I'm guilty as charged. I'll whole-heartedly admit to not remembering some of the people on my friendslist; I'm often added after a small roleplay session and I accept in the hopes that more will come from it! I generally just remove them from my list after an eternity of silence-- we've evidently never talked or roleplayed if I'm struggling to remember who they are! I'd rather be happy to see a yellow dot, rather than to furrow my brows in confusion and exclaim: "Who's that?".  :-[

(Though, I definitely wouldn't reply with "Who the hell are you?"; I'd chat as normal- that's beyond rude!)
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: JackobLoveu on February 23, 2013, 03:05:02 pm
Did someone say random friend requests? :D

(http://i.imgur.com/WnO8i35.png)

I agree that being ignored by a friend is upsetting-- it's happened to me on my other RPG (roleplaying partner found a new group of friends and left me in the cold; the usual)! Whilst people are inevitably closer to some friends than others, it's no reason to blatantly ignore someone who quips a 'Hello'-- unless they're afk, busy or mid-roleplay and such! I try to respond to everyone, friend or not, though I'll admit it's difficult when you're in the middle of a paragraph of text.

Though, I'm guilty as charged. I'll whole-heartedly admit to not remembering some of the people on my friendslist; I'm often added after a small roleplay session and I accept in the hopes that more will come from it! I generally just remove them from my list after an eternity of silence-- we've evidently never talked or roleplayed if I'm struggling to remember who they are! I'd rather be happy to see a yellow dot, rather than to furrow my brows in confusion and exclaim: "Who's that?".  :-[

(Though, I definitely wouldn't reply with "Who the hell are you?"; I'd chat as normal- that's beyond rude!)

Whoo! How did got 255 friend request? Is that a a glitch? xD So strange. But I agree with you. When people just ignored me or disrespect me, I just have to take them out of my Friends List! >.< Hate that!
(Yeah.)
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: Lady_Alizarin on February 23, 2013, 06:46:08 pm

This person started spending a lot of time around the mods and when ever I would see them I'd pass by and say hello or sometimes try to make small talk still since they were my friend but they would instead totally ignore me and continue talking with their group of friends and only greet particular people including the mods. Let me make something clear here before I go on:

I have no problem with the mods or admins. I like and even love some of the mods and admin but what I do have a problem with is people who treat them like they are the only individuals worth any attention in this community. I do not like the type of individuals who play a role around the staff but mistreat or have favoritism and select kindness to everyone else including their own friends the moment they are around the staff. These individuals start to act like they are above other members in the community when in truth we are all part of one whole and should treat one another like we are. Even I have never been mistreated like this by a staff member. No matter how many individuals they have to deal with in a day I have never been ignored by a mod or admin and they do not act as snobbish superiors to the community as some of these non staff individuals do. My point here is if you are kind to forum staff then you should be kind to everyone not just ignore or ditch your former friends or so called "noobs" in the community to just focus all your attention to the staff. People like that that ditch for a particular group of individuals over another are not true friends. I have never done this myself. Sometimes I admit I get overwhelmed by my friends because everyone starts talking at once and I'm not always so good at juggling everyone's conversations simultaneously, but I at least try my best to acknowledge each one. A true friend doesn't ignore or have select friendship. I love all my friends and everyone in this community even non friends and staff alike. A lot of other people need to learn to do the same.

I definatly agree with you there, Sura. Just because they cuddle and mingle with the staff, does not mean that they are above everyone else, or better than everyone else. As you said... they are equal members of the community and should treat everyone else with respect and kindness, instead of being snobbish.

Back on the subject... I have not had any friends do that to me... not that I can remember. -shrug-
I do have many friends in the community, and I admit that I find it hard to pay attention to everyone of them. Since I get involved in so many different RPs, it's hard to find the time to share time with some of the friends I have. I don't try to ignore them when they whisper me. If they say "Hello" to me via whisper, I will say Hello back to them.
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: Robin_Wolfieh on February 23, 2013, 06:48:13 pm
There's a bit of a risk of this. -but I have my share of this as well. Although it is a bit hurtful of being ignored or even forgotten from a "former friend" there are just some limits on what a person can comprehend or uphold to. There are people who just want to be noticed more, but going about it the wrong way. Some are these people that you are describing. Wanting to expand their "friend circle" so to speak.

-but blatantly ignoring or negating one's feeling is "no good" and should consider to think about it when adding a person to their list. This can go into argument, most of which is negative if a person is irked enough. That's not the point though. What I am trying to say is, some people should think twice about adding (how many) people onto their list. Too many people added in the list can play a factor too. A person can only remember so much.

-Anyway though. If you need any moral support, you and your friends and family can help. Talk about it. Discussing your issues can help. =3
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: KibaWolf73 on February 23, 2013, 06:53:05 pm
I often try to socialize in FeralHeart, hence why I almost always answer people back, even if I don't know them. I don't want to accidentally hurt their feelings. Though, it might happen to be AFK or simply busy at the moment, and not answer.

Now, in real life, I've been friends with somebody for four years by now. We were literary inseparable. We did everything together. Then suddenly, boom. She had a massive personality change. So, a new girl moved to our class, and my best friend happened to befriend her. Now, that's definitely something I wouldn't make a fuss out of. But really, suddenly completely ignoring the one you spent most of your time with for four whole years, in favor of somebody you just met? Then coming back at me like nothing happened, after a few weeks? -.-
We're still friends, ahem, pals, but we can't be 'sisters' anymore.
And the worst thing? The very first friend I've made, and the only friend I can still trust, is taking the very same way. I'm slowly becoming alone. Again...
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: Nemena on February 23, 2013, 07:39:12 pm
Title: Re: Friends that really aren't your friends.
Post by: JackobLoveu on February 23, 2013, 07:50:54 pm