Ok, this has been n my chest for about four or five days, so Here I go.
We all have had OOC drama happen, one time or another
And, most of us knows, it sucks both ways
Not one person causes it most of the time
Mostly, it will be a misunderstanding, or play-insulting gone absolutely wrong
This, has happened to me recently.
This will be my primary example
So, we were all in a mapped Rp, on a break from our Roleplay(Hyenas)
Well, we were 'Play' insulting each other, and it pretty much went downhill from there.
It turned into a fight, but I could not figure out, when the playing stopped and the fighting started.
We all said things that at least I regret saying, although they have not shown any remorse for the actions the did
I fought with my Group leader, one of the Lead guards kept on commenting on my Hyena's physique, and wounding my feelings repeatedly
They threatened my Roleplay offspring, and they were mad at me for not liking the 'Shipping' they thought was the greatest and the best for the my friend and another person.
They yelled at me, called me, ah, things I shall not repeat, I said things I reaaaally should not have said, but was so high-strung at the moment things came out that would've been etter enough un-said.
They sai that, when my offspring as born the Second in Command would kill them, ect.
I was going to cry, when the Group leader threatened to kick me from the group
Then everything, 'Hit the fan', as they say.
They went aaaaaall out, nipping at my heels so to speak
And I bit right back
And then, the Leader(Matriarch) Started a count-down to kick me, I was so upset I logged off.
Later I found out my Rp Mate was punished, because they had shipped him with another girl(The shipping I disagreed with)
One of my good friends stood up for me after I logged off and was kicked.
The Matriarch told her to shut up
I had to take a good ten minute walk to calm myself down
As you can see, OOC Drama, and not OK.
And, you must be wondering about the 'Twisting Words' part of the title.
Again with the Hyenas, I will use as an example.
So, they had a forum on webs, and I check it ow and then, because I still feel bad and I want to say sorry, well, I had butI don't think they recieved it(This happened before today)
And they had a newspaper type of deal, and I read the first headline.
They said on how I was, 'Banned', from the Hyenas of Kutel(Yeah, you may have seen them recruiting one time or another)
And one of my, 'Friends', who was very nice to me, but was offline when the fight happened, Had, Called me, 'A fur ball of annoyance,' and had also went on to say I said my offspring would hate my Matriarch, when, in fact, he heard word of mouth.
And most of you know that word of mouth is more often false then true.
I am deeply hurt by this.
He twisted my words, and made me look like the pestering villain. In some ways, I guess I am.
But I tried to redeem myself, which they all seemingly ignored
And I also heard via one of my few friends left there, that the made poems of my characters death.
So, I hope you can see......
OOC Drama and Twisting words hurts. It is never Ok, even if you disagree with them, putting them down over little is not ok.
Moral is: Be careful on how you handle an argument, do NOT Twist some one's words after the fight, and try to cool down OOC Drama If possible, and be careful who you think your 'Friends' are.
-Rant, over. Being upset and close to crying, Who knows-
Well that's a real bummer.
Joking insults on an online chat with people you really don't know is never a good idea. Some people don't know whether to take them as a joke or take them seriously, because they will more than likely not know the tone you are expressing. Sometimes they won't know if you are just being sarcastic or being serious. They don't know what's going on in your mind.
I said things I reaaaally should not have said, but was so high-strung at the moment things came out that would've been better enough un-said.
Moral is: Be careful on how you handle an argument, do NOT Twist some one's words after the fight, and try to cool down OOC Drama If possible, and be careful who you think your 'Friends' are.
It's true when you say that one should be careful how they handle an argument. By being angry with what they said and fighting back with your harsh words, you made the situation even worse. Did it solve anything? No. It got you kicked from the group, people talking negatively about you, and now everyone has hard feelings toward each other. Lashing back with more violence doesn't solve any argument. What you should have done was try to calm them down in a mature and calm way. If that doesn't help, and they don't want to listen and act civilized, well then they aren't the kind of "friends" you need.
As they say, you live and you learn. Sorry to hear that you experienced such drama, especially in a place where everyone is supposed to be having fun. I hope everything gets set right for you and your 'friends'. If not, you just got to put it behind you and move on.