First of all. I'm sorry to hear of all this. Life shouldn't be this way..
I guess we should call ourselves lucky in Sweden and not complain over much.
However. I don't know what there is to do about the first situation.
All I could suggest is be there for the guy, and try to talk to him.
Yet, I understand if it's difficult. Especially not knowing yours or his age.
It's good to find distractions, just minor ones. Staying active and all that.
Going outside or playing games.
When it comes to your cousin who seems to be a bit touchy.
Sit down and talk to her. Make sure she understands that all you need is a bit of space.
Even if you adore her, you need time alone every now and then.
I'm aware that it can easily be interpreted as if you don't want her around.
Perhaps offer her to borrow something of yours in the meantime?
If she perhaps likes to draw or play a game you've got.
Suggest different activities she might enioy, that could perhaps distract her for a while, and assure her you'll do something together when you have time.
Perhaps watch a movie together or something along those lines.
Moving onto the six year old..
The lack of discipline has obviously effected the kid negatively, and will continue to do so until there comes structure to his life.
All I can say is that there should he consequences after he's behaved badly.
He can't always get his way, and all that.
It'll end up making things worse.
But as I understand it. They all now live with your parents?
I hope you know that they're not your responsibility, even if you may feel they are.
Or feel bad for not being able to help more than you are..
I think it's wonderful, that you're thinking about how to make it easier for them all.
As well as for yourself.
It's not been easy for you, with everything troubling you, and piling up.
It could also be an idea to suggest professional help, for those who feel they need it.
And, don't be afraid of asking for help yourself.
Might not be the best advice, but it could be something.
Don't be afraid of sending a PM if you ever need someone to talk to.
Kind regards,
Ressy - Older sister of four (soon to be five).
10 hours? Oh mai. I'd be climbing the walls.
That's a very lovely thing to do though. :3
I'd do the same for my brothers.
Ah. Yeah, it csn grt quite annoying when people hog you.
Especially when they're persistent and believe you want them gone if you try to get some space.
Of course, when the time feels right.
Spanking and shouting usually only makes things worse, it can trigger a fear..
Or just make things worse as he gets attention.
It's usually best to sit down, speak calmly and tell them why they can't behave the way they do.
Though, I have no idea how it is to raise a child, even if I have brothers.
I always left it to my parents.
An example of my father's way of raising us would be..
If we nagged for stuff..
Let's take something that actually happened.
My father and my brother was at a petrol station.
My brother kept nagging for something and threw a fit when he didn't get it.
My father knew the man who worked there, so he walked out and drove off without my brother.
Drove for a bit and later returned to get my brother who had became silent as dad walked out.
He never nagged my father about anything at the store again. xD
I'm not saying this is the right thing to do.
I'd never leave my brothers, no matter how much they nagged or threw fits.
I'd probably just let them lay on the floor or whatever until they gave it up.
Yet, they haven't been raised the way this kid has.