Same problem...
i thought i might give another chance for FH, redownloaded the whole thing, FH and FH+.
everything was fine... then i wanted to leave bonfire island.
lets say i officially lost 2 characters to it.
no matter how much time i wait, no matter what setting im changing, my characters are stuck somewhere.
i tried changing my rendering system, lowered all settings to really basic...
still cant connect.
i wonder if the servers will ever be good enough so at least i can play for only 1 hour.
by the way: my internet is good, pretty fast, can play any other game, everything is smooth. i did connect to the game first, but appeared on bonfire. the problem started when i wanted to leave it through a portal.