Feral Heart
Off topic => Discussion Board => Topic started by: Jitters on October 04, 2011, 05:42:54 am
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On another website I noticed a user had made an offensive post about another user, who had apparently taken offense to something said and blocked him. The blocked user had some pretty rude things to say, and got a lot of people gathered bashing the other guy who had simply blocked someone they didn't like. I didn't know much about what happened, but bash threads are very rude so I said something, so the person being bullied wouldn't have to feel the world was against him.
Well, of course, I should have kept my mouth shut .I have taken the guys place as the subject of bullying. So far they are making fun of me for terming "block" as "Banned from my account". I am not really paying too much attention to it, but it is tough to believe people out there can be so cruel. Usually sticking up for the victim builds courage for other people to support as well, but in the case I've gotten myself in a bit of a tight spot, lol. Despite this I will continue to stick up for users being bullied on these sites, even if it means taking on some of the trouble myself.
I mean, no matter how pathetic they call me, I am not at the level where I can call someone "stupid" for an honest typo.
How about you? Have you ever been bullied, or seen bullying on a website? How do you react? Perhaps together we can figure out a better way to resolve problems like this, so that other people don't have to feel bad for the way they type, speak, draw, play or in general, create.
*edit* The other user made a bash thread about me, and someone stood up for me. Awwwww.
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I was harrassed/bullied on another website over trivial matters which I won't elaborate on because I don't know if said users also come onto this forum. Basically it drove me out of said site/game because of their behaviour and my tolerance for it was used up. This was about two years ago maybe a bit less.
I've put it behind me but some people still at ANY given chance will find me and still stab at me with it. Yep still after all that time :\ I hate it.
I tried reasoning, talking rationally, discussing etc with people but in the end they were so hellbent on their opinion they never listened, it was ridiculous.
Personally, I don't think there's any way to resolve problems like these, especially if the people who harrass you are too immature to listen or forgive and forget.
It isn't worth dealing with people who aren't willing to or don't change.
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Well, my situation, a few people just stood up for me and when a majority was against him he got much nicer very quickly, but what about the events where nobody will help you?
I think perhaps we need more people willing to stick up for others.
I know on Deviantart a lot of young artists are driven out because of harsh people, it's so sad to see.
I like that the FH forum is a pretty tight knit group, I don't see much bullying going on that isn't shut down (but maybe I'm sheltered), but on sites like Gaiaonline and Deviantart where it can take over a week for a report to process, it can be harsh.
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Some peeps are just trolls. Odds are they just want attention, they're facing problems in their own life, they're jealous, or some other personal disturbance on their end. And other times it could be a personal battle based upon a bad history with the victim. I know it might be second nature to stand up for someone in trouble. But isn't it sometimes good for someone to learn to stand for themselves?
Hakuna Matata (Ignorance is bliss)
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It really depends on the circumstance. In some cases all people need to feel confident enough to stand up for themselves is the knowledge that other believe they are in the right and will stick up for them. Not everyone has a strong mind. I can handle this kind of bullying, as I don't take it seriously, but other people may feel they are not welcome, are stupid or aren't good enough, especially if it is a large group attacking them.
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I hate that people bully others on the internet.
I heard about a girl that got bullied on the internet.
There was a guy that wrote to her that no one liked her and other rude stuff.
Guess what she did? She took suicide because of what he said...
Its really sad what people can do on the internet..
Young artists got harassed by people on DeviantArt?
Thats just sad .-.
People can be so rude..
Some persons has been rude to me on the internet..
Not so much now anymore but when I was around 10 and 11 years old.
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I get it from time to time, but I can deal with it, even laugh at it. Some people though....
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When I first started the internet, I was bullied quiet a lot. But I was lucky enough to have the mods as friends, so they helped me out.
But often, I am stuck with no help. I try to ignore, but in real life I am a fragile girl. I do feed the trolls, because sometimes I can't. But often, I can stick up and normally go: "Aww look at the 'ickle troll boo! So pathetic <3"
I try to stand up with people. I am a likeable person (I hope) and normally have friends to help protect victims. I find, if you troll them in a nice way they leave you alone.
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I think that when people bully you on the internet, it's not really a big deal. You can easily ignore it, block them or leave the site they are on. But if it's someone who you know IRL who is bullying you online, that is a different story.
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Internet Bullies = Cowards
I mean...if you can't say it in face, why say it online?
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aero your SO right. i hate internet bullying.
it can prevent users from even showing their faces. anywhere.
you only know these people virtually, not in real life.
how would it feel if u were bashing someone who u didnt know wuz ur best friend in real life, then found out that it was them?
that would suck so much. seriously, like a damn vaccum cleaner (excuse ma french)
give someone at least three chances before you judge them.
they may be having a bad day. you dont know anything about them.
i, personally, and honest to freaking god, will say something to someones face. im not a bully, i sick up for people. I see an fh user getting bullied and i step between them and say
F*** off you dun know this person AT. ALL. so you dont need to bully them. your just insecure and take it out on them. you dont need to do that. i will NOT allow it. i will march through this computer and pimpslap you. k? got it? GOOOOD!
not the nicest thing, but say it in front of all of fh, and you get many people on your side. it often works
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I find it funnier that people think they can stop bullying, honestly that's impossible may as well get rid of all the humans on the planet. But saying that, it doesn't mean you shouldn't try to help people out. If you do, it'll encourage more people to, maybe get the bully number down. Kind of like waht Kenzi said.
Internet bullies, trolls and the like are probably bashed just as bad as they bash others in real life or have life problems, they use the internet, where they can hide their mannerisms, habits, or anything they're teased for, to relieve that anger on others and make themselves feel superior for once. Trolls are usually just frustraited children who want to, again, make themselves feel like they're the top dogs. That or show off.
I see "popular" artists bash on "younger" or "newer" artists all too much. Then get their flamers to flame them if they do anything about it. It's sickening.
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I see "popular" artists bash on "younger" or "newer" artists all too much. Then get their flamers to flame them if they do anything about it. It's sickening.
I get that on DA from time to time. I did a fanart for an artist I admired and while the artist themselves liked it, one of their fans flamed the hell out of me. My own fans stepped in and it became messy before I could hide all the comments and then it made more drama because that person got mad at me for hiding comments. I can't win sometimes.
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Not really a matter of winning, just a matter of handling it maturely. Sometimes, I love it when friends stick up for me, but not when it becomes a firefight. If they stirr up more trouble I'd rather them sit back than make matters worse.
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It's sad really that people have to bully others over the internet. But it's a loop. A lot of cyber bullies are bullied by others in real life.
Bullying in generally can hurt a person badly, and it leads to suicidal tendencies in teens especially.
There was this one girl who was cyber bullied, they got her number, her address, and all of her info. She ended up opening her door to her dog murdered on the porch.
This poor girl was so strong though. She overcame it and became something famous.
Her story makes me smile everytime. I share it with everyone who is being cyber bullied, because it's an inspiration to stay strong for those with suicidal tendencies because of cyber bullying.
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It's funny because on this forum, just about everyone is vulnerable to pinions. Opinions . They're offended by it. So honestly, what many of 'us' would consider bullying is just 'us' not agreeing and therefore being butthurt. Joke's on 'us', friend.
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It's funny because on this forum, just about everyone is vulnerable to pinions. Opinions . They're offended by it. So honestly, what many of 'us' would consider bullying is just 'us' not agreeing and therefore being butthurt. Joke's on 'us', friend.
This is really true...
I witnessed this yesterday! Some guy asked someone else if an rp was literate, the other person said yes. Yet, she wasn't typing literate. He pointed it out, the other person thought he was making fun of them by the way they speak, when that was clearly not the case.
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Kids'll be kids. Being too sensative is one problem that I constantly run into, because sometimes I tell them straight up, like others do too, something like that, and they'll freak out thinking I'm making fun of them or beng mean to them.
Informing =/= Bullying
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It's sad really that people have to bully others over the internet. But it's a loop. A lot of cyber bullies are bullied by others in real life.
Bullying in generally can hurt a person badly, and it leads to suicidal tendencies in teens especially.
There was this one girl who was cyber bullied, they got her number, her address, and all of her info. She ended up opening her door to her dog murdered on the porch.
This poor girl was so strong though. She overcame it and became something famous.
Her story makes me smile everytime. I share it with everyone who is being cyber bullied, because it's an inspiration to stay strong for those with suicidal tendencies because of cyber bullying.
That made me cry, out of sadness that someone would ever do that to a young girl, and out of happiness that she overcame it. ;A; And I really, really agree with cyberbully loops. I've been bullied, and it's not fun, but why spread ill feeling when there shouldn't be any?
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I hate bullying.
And I don't like saying that I "hate" any person...but I will not stand for bullies.
It makes me sad when I hear about someone being bullied...it makes me mad when I hear about other people joining in.
No one wants to be bullied, but taking the easy road and joining in the "fun" is not the right way.
Because it's NOT the easy road when you're making things hard for others.
And it's NOT fun to the victim.
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Agreed, Rani. I've been bullied waaaay too many times...
I don't hate anyone, but no one appreciates bullying-- except the bully(s).