Feral Heart
Game & Forum Discussion => Game Discussion => Topic started by: Splatterz on June 02, 2013, 07:16:56 pm
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I recently just read a topic, that got me thinking.
http://www.feral-heart.com/index.php?option=com_jfusion&Itemid=2&jfile=index.php&topic=35164.new#new (http://www.feral-heart.com/index.php?option=com_jfusion&Itemid=2&jfile=index.php&topic=35164.new#new)
I know it seems long, but all I ask is you please read most of this and just think twice about how you judge others on FeralHeart and in real life.
Okay, so, of course, there is always going to be online bullies. Over Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, you get it. My question is, but why bully others on an online game when you're both here for the same reason? - To get away from that drama in reality. There shouldn't be any of that on this game, isn't there enough in real life? Everyone wants to be themselves on here, and make their own unique characters. Just because someones character isn't your definition of 'beautiful' or 'pretty' it doesn't give you the right to tell them to change. It's just like in real life. You can't change how you look in real life, but you can in FH. If they thought their character was ugly and they didn't like it, they would change it. They feel happy with their character because they made them and they are unique and one of a kind.
It's the same thing with RPs, people make fun of other peoples RPs because they don't like them. I've seen unicorn RPGs, Reptile RPGs, and even bacon RPGs (I'll admit, I giggled at that one.) But I didn't say anything rude to their face, because trolling or not, it would be rude. Maybe they wanted to try something different. Maybe for once you should join a unique RP other than a lion, cat, or wolf RP. That's pretty much what FeralHeart consists of. I've joined prey RPs before, and though I was hesitant at first, it's a lot of fun! RP's that don't involve cats or lions or wolves are quite rare. It makes you feel better when there's other people out there that have the same tastes as you. You eventually don't care what other people think, all you care about is having fun with your other RP buddies that like the same thing as you.
Last but not least, excluding...This is one thing that gets on my nerves because I have to deal with it almost everyday, in reality AND in FeralHeart. FH is a big community of people that should all care and respect for each other. I've seen people say that a certain person cannot join their group because they simply don't like the way they look. "So what if you don't like the way they look?" Is all I have to say. When in small groups of people on their OC charas or something, they tend to ignore someone if they don't know who they are. Maybe they just want to be friends. All I have to say is stop ignoring them and ask them how they're doing. Trust me, it'll make their day just to hear that someone actually notices they're there and maybe you'll make a new friend out of it. I can guarantee this is the best way to make friends on FeralHeart. I have one friend that became one of my best friends because I stood up for her. She was being publicly bullied in FP, so I befriended her. We ended up hanging out everyday and RPing just the two of us, because I said we could be outsiders together.
Thanks for reading, -Splatty
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I understand your pain. This situation also happens to me, but not physically..Mentally. People just sit their still, talking to other friends. When your just their, alone. And when this happens to me, I just quickly log out of Fh and into the forums. Some people sometimes just don't like you because the way you act and rest of your personality. And that's the part I don't understand. I know were not friends and all, but just talking to someone that you don't know or just don't like; doesn't mean you can just bully them. And right there bugs me. And sometimes when I their, talking to my friends; and seeing them pop on the game , and just standing their..Like uh "Hi' That's probably how I feel. But then again, I understand your pain, Splatty. I really hope this phicsally and mental (If you have mental bullying..(If people be talking to you in whisper and such)) stops.
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I like how you brought this up Splatty, this is one of the things that can't just be ignored. If everyone had a dollar for every time someone got abused because of their looks, it would add up to more than a trillion. I've tried to join a realistic wolf RP before and everything about me was realistic but they said I couldn't join because apparently they hated how my character was 'overweight'. Think about it, everything about me was perfect except my characters weight was slightly above default. The same thing goes for real life. I was bullied because I was underweight in 4th grade. I lost my temper and shoved the girl into a locker and ran away. The biggest lie is "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" That is not true. I've heard of people who have been tempted to commit suicide because they were being bullied and teased. Words cannot be taken back, and they can hurt the soul. Treat others the way you would want to be treated. If someone punches you do you think that person would want to be punched too? I like seeing new RPs and stuff like that. But I've seen someone advertise an RP and other people put that user down. It made me so mad to think others would put someone down because their creative idea was stupid. It's wrong to do these things and I hope that if a bully were to look at this post that they would think twice about their attitude towards others.
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Agree with everything that's been said here. It's amazing how two screens between two people has the potential to totally change how they treat each other:/
Hopefully this post might make some people think twice before they hurt anymore people. <3
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The internet can be a cruel place where people show little to no humanity or civility to each other. The reason why some people bully online is because no one knows who they are. They get away with it because they can say whatever they want to and not have to worry about getting punched/slapped in the face. I bet many of these trolls wouldn't have the guts to say some of these kind of things to people out in the real world. Since they are behind a computer screen and completely annonomus, they can say whatever they want to anyone and not have to face any kind of concequences.
It's terrible and sad that stuff like this happens in this game. The best thing we can do to slow it down is report anyone who is trolling/bullying/harassing other players. Even then, there were times when I reported bullies but their actions weren't severe enough for them to be punished.... At least I tried.
No matter what website or RPG site you find on the internet, there will always be trolls to cause trouble. That's just the sad truth of mingling around on the wide world of the internet. There will be those who don't care about other people's thoughts and feelings. There will be those who will trash and bash at other people's new ideas. The best thing to do is just ignore them and not let them get the best of you.
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I wrote a thread about the bullying myself, so with three threads like this up now you would think the bullies would have the guts to speak up, maybe apologize for their behavior? Even try to explain their side, but nope.
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It's very, very sad that there's so many topics like this on the forum. More depressing too because there's little kids here, and it bothers me that there's so much bullying with suck young people around.
It gives the game a bad environment to be in, and it just makes people feel bad.
I do agree that it needs to stop and it needs to stop soon.
And this bullying is for petty little reasons too, like the roleplays they make and how their character looks.
That doesn't matter, as long as it's a good roleplay or a well developed character.
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And this bullying is for petty little reasons too, like the roleplays they make and how their character looks.
That doesn't matter, as long as it's a good roleplay or a well developed character.
It all really matters if the person who created that character is satisfied with how he or she looks. It doesn't matter at all if others think your characters not pretty. The only thing that matters is your opinion and your opinion only
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I haven't seen bullies that much on Feral Heart. I don't recall seeing them at all. But if I do, I'll stand up for the victim. Cyber bulling has scarred children and caused many deaths.
"Do they even have a reason why countless sons and daughters have to die?" -Disturbed
This song always reminds me of bullies in real life and on the internet. Some people still don't get the person on the other end is a real person with real emotions that you can really hurt. It doesn't matter if that person has bullied you, has a weird problem or has a stupid character, you shouldn't bully them.
Mostly when I'm bullied, I just hit the block button and wait a day or two then unblock the person. (I don't like people on my block list. xD) And if they keep going then I keep blocking them until they shut up. It doesn't make me the bad guy.
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The Internet can be a very mean place sometimes, that's were all the pixel trolls live BC
But really, coming from a somewhat bad childhood I've been bullied many many times. Even got two large scars on my right arm form a bully. But really when getting bullied, you have to always say to yourself "Do you really want to lower your standards to there level or be better then them and be someone greater. When getting a bad comment here, the head would say "Oh she said this, I'm going to say something back to her to get even". No, the right thing to do to a bully here is just block the, or if it's getting way out of hand send screenies of the convo to a staff member to see if they can do something.
It does make me sad that the majority of people picked are just little kids, but take this advise from someone who knows the pain and endurance of being bullied. Im now a adult who's future looks promising with a college degree. It all depends on you to make your future brighter.
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I have wrote my bullying experience here on the FH forums. I have heard people commiting suicide because of this.. It's so sad. I have been dealing with bullies almost my whole life but when I was in 6th grade, I finally overcame my fear and stood up to them. All it takes is one stupid word out of their mouthes and bam your down in sorrow. Most of my depression was because of bullies. There was a main one named Max and boy he would put me down and beat me up. But I stood up to him before Summer started. We need to speak up to bullies. We can't let them bring us down!
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The bullies and trolls on here can be stopped if we try...Is all I can say. I just do hope maybe some people will read this and think twice about what they say about other people's characters in game. ;;
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Ahfhsj, this video (http://youtu.be/ltun92DfnPY) should be played in every school, to every child.
It's a really, really difficult problem to address. Whilst ignoring the bullies generally forces them to leave you be, it doesn't solve the matter at hand-- the bullying itself. It's not just FH, too, it's practically the entirety of the internet.
I'm always confused how to react when I catch someone being bullied-- it simply can't be ignored. The sad thing is, nearly everyone's had terrible encounters with bullies; I used to get beaten up behind the bike sheds almost daily! Even though the ordeal's given me an extraordinarily thick skin, it's really ruined my ability to trust others. I always try to stick up for the victim, whether it's simply sending a concerned whsiper (and often drawing them a picture!), nagging the bullies-- or even distracting them! I once had to type gibberish in german to a rather aggressive player-- just to distract them from the abuse. It didn't really work, but my efforts made them sprout enough profanities for a viable report! It's terribly difficult; I'm always hurt when I see others acting in such a manner, even though I'm rarely the one being targeted.
I wonder why so many have forgotten that there's another person-- a human being-- behind the screen.
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Yes, this is what I want to stop, this cyber bulieing. I come up with alot of ideas for rp, and you will rarely find me in a 'normal' rp. So I get alot of this. You tend to get used to it, but the words are still there, listed on that chat box, with their names. And I agree, it should be stopped, they should learn that what they say, may really heart others.
(It was really late when I wrote this -.-)
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Ahfhsj, this video (http://youtu.be/ltun92DfnPY) should be played in every school, to every child.
It's a really, really difficult problem to address. Whilst ignoring the bullies generally forces them to leave you be, it doesn't solve the matter at hand-- the bullying itself. It's not just FH, too, it's practically the entirety of the internet.
I'm always confused how to react when I catch someone being bullied-- it simply can't be ignored. The sad thing is, nearly everyone's had terrible encounters with bullies; I used to get beaten up behind the bike sheds almost daily! Even though the ordeal's given me an extraordinarily thick skin, it's really ruined my ability to trust others. I always try to stick up for the victim, whether it's simply sending a concerned whsiper (and often drawing them a picture!), nagging the bullies-- or even distracting them! I once had to type gibberish in german to a rather aggressive player-- just to distract them from the abuse. It didn't really work, but my efforts made them sprout enough profanities for a viable report! It's terribly difficult; I'm always hurt when I see others acting in such a manner, even though I'm rarely the one being targeted.
I wonder why so many have forgotten that there's another person-- a human being-- behind the screen.
I utterly agree with everything you said. I wonder why people seem to forget that there's a person behind that screen, it's really sad :c
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Sometimes bullies don't forget sadly. They can be careless about the person they are bullying, because maybe they were bullied too, and they want others to feel what they felt.
People have real feelings, and bullying someone might cause them to continue the harsh circle.
Or even for them to commit suicide. So basically they wasted and left their beautiful lives just because you bullied them? It's worse than it sounds. How would you feel if someone called you dumb, or even a baby and treat you as one? Some people forget not to feel bad if a stranger calls you something mean.
"But they are bullies!" They are still strangers to you, and they are bullies. That's why you shouldn't care what they think of you and stand up to them. They will get the point and stop.
I don't like people being bullied real life and internet just because of something stupid.
It's not a good thing. How would you deal with it if you were bullied? Stand up to them.
They could care less about bullying them, but soon they will if you stand up to them.
Think of the words before going to school if the bully's there.
It's sad that people think they can bully. But no, even if bullies think it's funny they should keep their thoughts to themselves. I've even seen a guy with an odd face, because it had something on it everywhere. I barely seen it, because I looked away terrified.
But keep your mean thoughts to yourselves and say your nice ones. That's respect.
Don't want to "respect"? Do it. It's a better way of life, and bullies can be bullied back if they keep it up.
Not that it's truly a good thing, but they should remember the fact that they are human too.
I've even seen a video of some bullies bullying some kid, and they almost killed them they said in the show they were having people view the video, as I remember.
That's my opinion about bullies truly. I'mma stop the rant now. c:
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Nya. D: This may sound weird, but I fear hatred. So when I see people being bullied it makes me want to cry, especially when the bullies act like they are friends when they aren't, and the victom has no clue! I don't understand how people can become so evil. ._. Sure, that kid is a bit strange in your opinion, but that doesn't mean you have to put them down. They won't change their 'strange' ways, in fact they might end up killing themselves. No one deserves that. x.x
I don't really care about bullies anymore, especially since I am never really targeted at all. People's opinions don't bother me, and like Nemena stated above, just from a few back-stabbing and cruel acts from people around me I am not very trustworthy of others anymore.
As I read all of the above posts, I wondered, "What if someone is in the middle of bullying you or someone else and then you try and question them and change their ways?" Could it work? Here's a scenerio:
Bully: Your character looks ugly!
UglyCharacter: Why are you telling me this?
Bully: Because you are ugly!
UC: But why are you even bringing this up?
I wonder what that next response would be. But as Nemena also stated above about that 'aggressive player', I don't think players like that would even care about the above questions and would probably even begin to call you stupid for asking the questions. *shivers* Bullying is so common, but you can't let it get to you. Some people just naturally want to put others down to possibly make themselves feel better. Maybe they want more power. All these wars that we learn about in history are usually for power and money and the like. Humans can be quite dark, aye?
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Oke yeah bullying in real and bullying in FH is pretty high actually I think most of fh players are getting bullied or were bullied. Like some more some less.
Also those bullies, why they would be in this game then? But as much as I have seen bullies are always stronger and mostly (if in school) the top of the class. Like class life goes around them so they don't care about others. Also they might feel good of this like mostly bullies don't bully alone they have some friends around them also bullying and the bullies will show their friends oh am so cool look at me.
Bullying in fh is pretty much the same just the people who bully usually aren't also the top of the class in real life.
I think they bully to feel good, to feel once that they are over them.But if they do it already once and they ''succeed'' they do it more and more and more so they become official bullies of FH. So yeah I mean it is hard to throw all of them out if we throw one out another one comes... Just when I see bullying I usually step out (in fh) but if I am busy or something then I usually whisper the one who gets bullied and say to that person to block them.
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I know how all of this feels. I get bullied just about every week. Its painful. I sometimes think, I just want to do something to myself even.
I sometimes wonder why there is BULLYING. There is no reason for anyone's feelings to be ruined.
Everyone is human, we all have our own look, personality, and traits. So whats the point? I knew someone who had taken their life from bullying.
I've seen a LOT of bullying going around in FH. Especially with clan RPs.
I hope this all stops. Everywhere.
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Ahfhsj, this video (http://youtu.be/ltun92DfnPY) should be played in every school, to every child.
Watched the video..and cried a little, it was so sad.
I do agree that every bully should be shown that video, maybe they'll even change their ways.
Probably not, but it's worth it to stop all the harassment and bullying going on.
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Myeh, I just hate how people that are being bullied in real life come on here to bully others. They may think "Oh it's an online game, it won't affect them," But it can in some ways. It hurts to get bullied out or in of FH. :< I'm glad everyone is taking this into consideration, though.
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Myeh, I just hate how people that are being bullied in real life come on here to bully others. They may think "Oh it's an online game, it won't affect them," But it can in some ways. It hurts to get bullied out or in of FH. :< I'm glad everyone is taking this into consideration, though.
"It won't affect them." Pfft. I hate how people don't realize that there is a real person on the other side. I sometimes forget myself but I don't bully people. I would feel guilty in the end. It does hurt to be bullied. I'm afraid to say many kids had claimed suicide because of cyber bullying and real life bullying.
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Yeah...It makes me shudder at the thought that someone could do something like that from Feral-Heart. Though it most likely wouldn't, you never know. I don't see bullying too often on here but when I do I just cringe up. Here just isn't the place to pick on others.
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This needs to be sent to the trolls of Feral Heart. There was a troll when I was just talking to my friend and he kept making fun of my friends grammar. We got him to back off but he was getting pretty rude. She's new the community and has an old keyboard and computer, she can't help it.
I think trolls can be funny, but also very disrespectful. You should only troll when the person knows you're just messing with them.
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Well kids and people can be cruel :I I know what to do report them be done with it.
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People treat me like dirt because I play as anime characters... -.-; It sucks. And it gets annoying. >.>
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Bullying is a horrible thing. In real life and on the Internet. One of my friends, Spirit Demon, said that she used to have lots of friends who were new to FH, and when they found out that she joined 2 years ago, they just stopped RPing with her. I came along, and she asked if she could join my group, the Tunnel Wanderers. She did, and I'm the only one who whispers her when she's on to RP. I'm new, but I'm not going to stop RPing with her just because she's had more experience than me. This is online bullying in the form of exclusion. They went off and did their own thing together, but left Spirit out. This is a major issue in FH, and it needs to be stopped. Block the bully, and/or report them if you see someone or you being bullied. We can all work to stop bullying, in the real world and here. Just be nicer, stand up for yourself, and report.
~Jay
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Ahaha, this is the reason I play FH... irl I'm not exactly... ah... well, let's just say I only have two distant friends. Some time last year, I heard somebody say my name. I turned around and girls were giggling. Also, because I read and often make references to Homestuck, they purposely shun me. I remember in 5th grade when I literally was the only one up on the play sets. Nobody was even near me that day. And there's so much more to add to sadness, but I'll stop. My rant goes onto: the fact that this has carried into video games. Instagram (not really a video game, but there's bullying), FeralHeart, Animal Jam, Impressive World... and many more... I just suggest staying away from people like that... surround yourself with good, kind people. I'm really upset by the fact that people are just like, "Oh she/he makes references/reads/does/thinks about [topic, item, or idea] so she/he's not cool and let's not listen to her/him she/he's just a video game addict so she/he's disgusting let's get away from her/him." Although it's not that runon-ish, it's still pretty much what happens. Gossping, lying, insults, etc. are what make people either: 1. evil or 2. depressed enough to do suicide (tried it once, failed) So I strongly agree with the fact that bullying EVERYWHERE must go. Whew. Sorry for the long rant.
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Ahaha, this is the reason I play FH... irl I'm not exactly... ah... well, let's just say I only have two distant friends. Some time last year, I heard somebody say my name. I turned around and girls were giggling. Also, because I read and often make references to Homestuck, they purposely shun me. I remember in 5th grade when I literally was the only one up on the play sets. Nobody was even near me that day. And there's so much more to add to sadness, but I'll stop. My rant goes onto: the fact that this has carried into video games. Instagram (not really a video game, but there's bullying), FeralHeart, Animal Jam, Impressive World... and many more... I just suggest staying away from people like that... surround yourself with good, kind people. I'm really upset by the fact that people are just like, "Oh she/he makes references/reads/does/thinks about [topic, item, or idea] so she/he's not cool and let's not listen to her/him she/he's just a video game addict so she/he's disgusting let's get away from her/him." Although it's not that runon-ish, it's still pretty much what happens. Gossping, lying, insults, etc. are what make people either: 1. evil or 2. depressed enough to do suicide (tried it once, failed) So I strongly agree with the fact that bullying EVERYWHERE must go. Whew. Sorry for the long rant.
Oh dear, that's terrible. D: I was ditched by my closest friend in 6th grade so she could be 'popular' so from 7th to 8th everyone ignored me. And when you are ignored, you don't talk. And when you don't talk, you end up studying everyone else's every action, and yeah....Basically, I became a very judgemental person. And when you try to make friends you just don't fit in anymore. I have friends now, though, since I entered HS so I hope you make lot's of new friends too!
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This also brings up the little "popularity" thing In schools. I was in the so called popular group and i got braces and the "popular girl group" voted me out, literally. The group took a vote and I got booted out. I went unnoticed for about a month. i then realized that none of the girls were gonna be friends with me and i crossed over to the "boy" side. I started hanging out with these 3 boys and the 4 of us still hang out together and I feel like I actually have friends now. I also kinda became popular because of my tomboy personality. I then got nicknames like Stick-bone (Because I was said to be too thin and underweight)
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I been bullied since I was in 3rd grade really. My parents say they're teasing, but I always think its bullying.
I can't remember how I was bullied, but I was actually.
Now smart-ellicing on people DOES count as bullying in my terms. People everywhere just smart-ellic their way to crazy. -3-.
This would be me when I see a bully.
*shoots down with AK-47 watergun*
bam. pay back, jerk.
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I know what you're all talking about. But what really irritates me is when you get this big bunch of people who tend to talk on global chat, who think there really cool and funny talking together. And they normally sit in a big group, and then when you try to walk up to them and join in there chat, They go all silent and akward, and turn into haters, acting like you're a piece of dirt.
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I guess the hate comes from the human habit of comparing one's self to others. If people would..
1) Recognize that comparing yourself to others is a bad habit.
2) Realize that everybody is different, because we are.
3) Stop being afraid to be themselves.
4) Forgive and learn.
5) Learn to deal with change and accept it.
6) Just go for whatever floats their boat and makes them happy.
The world would be much better. (and yes, I took most of the list from a site, just rephrased it.)
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It's the human nature to judge one by their appearance. I only wish people would think before treating one like dirt.