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Title: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: TheChillFangirl on December 21, 2015, 11:10:21 pm
Hey guys!

So, I've been asking for a Tumblr account (yes.  I don't have a Tumblr.), and I'm asking for one for Christmas.  But my parents want to know, Why would you ever need a Tumblr??? What will you do with it???  Is it safe??? and so on.  I am terrible with coming up with reasons, and I really want a Tumblr, so could you guys help?

Thanks!

Also.  It seems kinda weird, because my brother has one, and he has an Instagram and a Snapchat too, and all I have is this and QuizUp (and these don't really count in my opinion because they're technically not social media platforms).  I dunno.  Parents are weird.  And protective.  And that's fantabulous.

TheChillFangirl
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: Preach on December 21, 2015, 11:23:09 pm
I'm not good at convincing my myself, only begging is my natural thing. XD However, if you have a good purpose, as to why you want it, then it would probably give you a chance for your parents. Then again, what do you plan on using it? Is it for school or only for FeralHeart? If you want to convince your parents, you need to tell what you're going to do with it.

And tumblr should be safe - that's if you use it correctly and maturely.
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: PrettyReckless on December 22, 2015, 04:22:46 am
Even though I have a tumblr myself, seeing as I am old and can decide for myself. I wouldn't always recommend getting one. Despite all the good parts of it, there's a lot of bad as well. Yet I'm sure that happens everywhere.
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: TheChillFangirl on December 22, 2015, 04:03:01 pm
Okay, so what I'm getting is that there's a lot of bad and a lot of good, and I need to state why I want it and what I'm going to do with it.

Soooo.....

I want it because it seems like a fantastic site.  There are loads of great people on there who will become my friends and such.  I will mostly just write headcanons and stories, and fangirl about this and that *looks to Dan and Phil, Sherlock, and Marvel*.  I know when enough is enough in terms of hey now ;).  Like if I see nsfw stuff I will stay the heck away from it.

Do you think that's good, or is there more I can add/take away?

I really wish to have an account, as you can see.  :D

TheChillFangirl
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: TullileIsHere on December 22, 2015, 04:22:45 pm
If I were you, I wouldn't mention the nsfw content to your parents because that could make them a little more suspicious of the site (though there is a safe-search button you can turn on when you're looking through the tags). I would start by telling them that there aren't any viruses on it (but if you get fan-mails of people asking you to go to their blog and click on a link on it, don't), there's a lot of good content on it, and that it's overall a good website.
Honestly, the only "bad stuff" I've seen on it is the occasional nsfw (like I said before, you can turn on the safe-search filter).
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: Hotdogsrule on December 22, 2015, 04:26:52 pm
If your parents are concerned about sexual content, I believe there's a setting somewhere where you can disable you seeing nsfw. Every once in a while, it might slip, but it's not like you can't just ignore it and maybe unfollow. I'd also reccomend xkit, because there you can block posts including certain words/tags, block a specific post all together, and all sorts of other helpful stuff.
As for why you should have it, not only is it a source of humor but it's also a great creative outlet, and a place for you to make friends, share your drawings, and such. There's content about literally anything you can think of, so no matter what you like, you'll find others with common interests.
I guess I'm supposed to be helping, so I won't list all the bad, but I won't promise you won't get a little attached to it, among other things like gore and the aforementioned sexual content, but, like i said, there can be precautions put to prevent all that. Like Preach said, tumblr is very safe as long as you're mature with it.

Hope this helps! :)
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: Jango_Fett on December 22, 2015, 04:46:59 pm
don't get tumblr


honestly it's not worth it

the site staff suck and the community is garbage
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: TheChillFangirl on December 23, 2015, 06:30:04 pm
Tullile-  There is that option?  I didn't know that.  And that may be a good idea  as for not telling my parents about the nsfw stuff. :)

Juno-  Yeah, I getcha.  And those are some very good points! Thank you!

WarKat-  Really?  What makes you say that?
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: longjump on January 03, 2016, 03:59:32 pm
I would suggest avoiding tumblr, IMO the community can be extremely toxic. NOT to everyone, of course, there are some awesome and chill peeps there, but if you're going to write stories odds are some person out there is going to find some reason to try to point out every single flaw. In my own experience it's full of people who fear monger and even the fandom parts can be really obscene so if you're young it might be best to wait until you're older to get one. Personally if I were a parent my kid wouldn't be allowed to have one, unless I could monitor what blogs they follow and use a blocking function, because even browsing tags can open up doors to drama.

IMHO deviant art is a way better place for that, but maybe I've just been lucky/unlucky.
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: Jango_Fett on January 03, 2016, 07:48:24 pm
Quote from: TheChillFangirl on December 23, 2015, 06:30:04 pm
WarKat-  Really?  What makes you say that?

That community is incredibly toxic, and will silence you the second you go against what they say.
They all have the spines of a slug, and will never let you rest until you submit and apologize to them for obscenely stupid reasons.

I suggest waiting a long time, either until these people grow up, become responsible, and shut the hell up, or, until you think(and your parents), you can discern and take the storm of disgusting that will come your way when you join.
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: Redlinelies on January 04, 2016, 03:29:43 pm
Tumblr is a good picture of what "we" are as people where there's no breaks on anything.

If you're young and your parents aren't very willing I'd suggest maybe trying to get in on something else you might be interested in until you can just go and make that choice yourself to join the site without them being up your neck about it.

As others has mention before there's a lot of great things on there, but also a lot of "bad". If you only look for the good stuff you're going to find it all around that site, but if you're thinking about the less fun stuff and the negativity you will not need to look far. There's so many people out there who use it for pretty much anything, not only a "blog" or cute cat collection. People will say whatever they feel like saying whether it's right or wrong, nice or crude, humane or inhumane. To me tumblr is really just another place on the internet, a place where you get to see the extremes of every angle.

I think you put some good perspective to your own post if you'd re-read it yourself.
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I am terrible with coming up with reasons, and I really want a Tumblr,

You want a tumblr but you don't know why. So it just leaves me to think that this is a case of reactance where you want something that you cannot have. It's common that we as people don't like to have our options limited or have others deciding for us, "Wanting what you cannot have". Granted I know that it is harder to argue why you'd want to have a tumblr if you never experienced it fully by being there, but you should still be able to come up with something reasonable as of "why" you'd want one and how it's going to do you better. If you understand why you want something, it's a lot easier to explain it to someone else and get them to understand your perspective.
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: Azorukon on January 04, 2016, 04:06:27 pm
Quote from: WarKat on December 22, 2015, 04:46:59 pm
don't get tumblr


honestly it's not worth it

the site staff suck and the community is garbage
as warkat said, its really not a place to go, there's just to much mumbo jumbo going on there and it spreads to others and turns them toxic as well, i had a tumblr for two days before i up and left that place from all the cringe that is there, but its all how you take it and maturity level etc. if you think you can handle it then good luck but i suppose i wouldn't advise it xD
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: longjump on January 04, 2016, 11:40:13 pm
Also, I notice someone mentioned TUmblr having a 'block' feature- you CAN block things, but only if people tag them, and they still show up when browsing tags, which you pretty much need to do to find new blogs when you first join. So if people dont care (and a lot dont) about tagging things 'NSFW', then you're still going to see it on your dash, and 100% will always see it in the tags. And many people tag if differently, #NSFW, #N-S-F-W, #notsafeforwork #not safe for work etc etc. It'll be a while before you have enough tagged blocked to not see things, assuming people actually tag them.

And like I said, fandoms are also full of drama. Recently thought of an example- I received anonymous threats because during the WC debate, I said it was wrong to exclude older members of the WC fandom. Basically, I'm 16, and the WC fandom has decided, at least in many parts of tumblr, that people will in the 'fandom' aged 16+ are predators and it's inappropriate to rp/draw warrior art.

Yep. But, i also enjoy some parts of the fandom, so it's 50/50, but for a middleschooler or someone younger it's harsh. (and im not sure if it's still like that, but I remember some aspects of tumblr being sort of nasty towards younger users)
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: papayatoot on January 05, 2016, 12:57:04 am
 I'm confused...do you have your own computer? Why don't you just get one on your own and tab out if they come close to seeing it? Parents sometimes are protective more so because they don't know any better than to actually benefit you. Tumblr wasn't around when they were your age, so if you just tell them it's a platform were you choose what goes on your feed and what doesn't I'm sure they'd let you get one. There's nothing bad about it except for a bad community I guess but you can just block problem people.
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: hugrf2 on January 05, 2016, 04:03:38 pm
Quote from: papayatoot on January 05, 2016, 12:57:04 am
I'm confused...do you have your own computer? Why don't you just get one on your own and tab out if they come close to seeing it? Parents sometimes are protective more so because they don't know any better than to actually benefit you. Tumblr wasn't around when they were your age, so if you just tell them it's a platform were you choose what goes on your feed and what doesn't I'm sure they'd let you get one. There's nothing bad about it except for a bad community I guess but you can just block problem people.

Personally, I don't think it's always good to be hiding things from your parents and stuff... I'm guilty of such (And for no reason at that), I will admit, I just don't want to encourage the habit too much even here. XI

Although, I see your reasoning. Parents can be kind of overprotective, you know? But eh... It's for a reason, and it's good to be cautious with.

And, to TheChillFangirl... (Can I call yew Chilly? |D)

I don't want to be riding off on other people's opinion's and stuff, but I kinda agree. When you look up some tags on Tumblr, or find some people that may post NSFW stuff (You may not even notice until you go deep enough into their blog, unfortunately, or it pops up later. I speak from experience.) you might not be so happy with the result. If you're careful with what you do on Tumblr, like if you're not doing much on there, I don't think I even see what the fuss is about haha. Maybe you don't even need a Tumblr, y'know? At least until you get to be a little bit older, maybe. I don't know.

Red brought up a good point about that, about thinking of why you really want one. 'Cause some stuff on there may not even be worth it. ;u; Depends on what you wanna do.
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: Jango_Fett on January 06, 2016, 02:38:22 pm
Quote from: papayatoot on January 05, 2016, 12:57:04 am
I'm confused...do you have your own computer? Why don't you just get one on your own and tab out if they come close to seeing it? Parents sometimes are protective more so because they don't know any better than to actually benefit you. Tumblr wasn't around when they were your age, so if you just tell them it's a platform were you choose what goes on your feed and what doesn't I'm sure they'd let you get one. There's nothing bad about it except for a bad community I guess but you can just block problem people.

that's literally the best way to get caught
ok storytime

like if i am watching netflix or w/e(or playing don't starve), instead of doing my homework, i'd get caught.
even when i thought i was being careful, it'd end very quickly.

Also... Pretty sure bending the truth and leaving out a few facts is Lying.
I'm very certain that Chill would not want to lie to their parents just to get onto a website.


as for the community being the only bad things
hee
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: Skullfrost on January 25, 2016, 03:33:53 pm
why do you need your parents to make it for you? Just make an account yourself... it's free, so I don't see why it'd be an issue.
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: Jango_Fett on January 26, 2016, 03:16:18 pm
Quote from: Skulleh on January 25, 2016, 03:33:53 pm
why do you need your parents to make it for you? Just make an account yourself... it's free, so I don't see why it'd be an issue.

Depending on the age of the person, it could pose an issue.

She wants her parents permission to get this, so if they say it's okay it's okay.
If it's not, it's not.
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: Echoing harmony on January 26, 2016, 10:39:13 pm
Listen hon, why want something if you don't know why you want it? Tumblr is not a friendly place from what I am told.

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So, I've been asking for a Tumblr account (yes.  I don't have a Tumblr.)

I don't even have a tumblr and I can manage just fine without one. Maybe it's best you stick with more 'kid-friendly' sites rather than going to a site with so much 'toxic'. Trust me, you can find better things do than tumblr.  :)
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: Skullfrost on February 08, 2016, 12:17:38 pm
funny thing is people keep saying tumblr is "bad" but in all honestly no its not. If someone is problematic... unfollow them. It's simple as that.

You only see posts from people you follow, so don't follow problematic people. Not that hard tbh.
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: wolfsquad on March 01, 2016, 12:56:35 am
Slightly agreeing with Skulleh here.
Yes, there's a side of Tumblr that's toxic and disgusting and there is NSFW content, HOWEVER: That's not the entirety of Tumblr. As Skulleh said, you can only see posts from the blogs you follow so follow people who'll post something that you'll want to see.
EX: If you want to see posts about  Tokyo Ghoul, then follow a blog that posts about that. If you want to see posts about dogs, then follow a blog that posts about that.

For another example. Me.
I like Black Butler, so I follow blogs that post about it and what they post are lovely fan-made images, fanfictions, headcannons, AU's, etc.
Then there are the problematic people that will send me hate because I support a certain ship, or because I don't ship something. What happens to them? I either make a witty or an intelligent reply and leave, don't respond to them, or I simply block them.
Title: Re: Help me convince my parents to get me a Tumblr!
Post by: toonanimals317 on March 09, 2016, 12:42:42 pm
Tumblr is a great website if you want to delve into Fandoms and perhaps cute animals, but even the Fandom pages can be... rather toxic. The owner of the page may post things you don't want to see, or don't want to hear. You just have to be careful.

May I ask how old you are? If you're at least 13 perhaps get a Facebook instead? It has a ton of safety features, and if you follow enough Fandom pages, for me it almost acts like a second tumblr, something I can scroll through.

Plus, no one can just follow you. So if you post something you only want friends to see, it isn't open to the world as long as your settings are right. You can follow what you want, and it's a good way to keep up with your friends who have it as well.

That's just my opinion though. I don't think you should join tumblr unless you're at least 15.