I've heard a few users tell me this in game about myself & other mods before. Speaking for all the staffies~
Not to give anyone an excuse for possibly neglecting their friends but being a mod/admin means you have alot of responcibilities. Of course one should always make time for their friends and never take their friends for granted but we also have to be mature enough to not only make time for leisure but time for the duties that come with being a FH staff member. There are many public maps that need to be monitored along with the zooming chats, users often whisper us in game for reports or seeking help/advice, and we also have responsibilities on the forum itself with answering messages, reviewing reports, maintaining order on the forum etc... Any good friends of a staff member would understand these things about their mod/admin friend and wouldn't be so hard on them over it. I will not lie there are days I get overwhelmed when friends are gathering around expecting conversation with me while I'm trying to handle multiple individuals whispering me about their map trouble or reports etc. My friends all understand that while I love to chat, derp, and just hang out with them a user having trouble or needing help takes priority over any leisure.
Users often expect way too much from mods/admin to the point that when we finally do start trying to have some fun we get bashed about it. I often see people being harsh to the other mods/admin when they are trying to have a little fun time with their friends finally and saying things like "The mods are always at N/Z. They don't do anything. I don't see red text anymore. Omg where are the mods! FH mods are lazy blah blah etc-" Just because we're staff doesn't make us anymore different from the rest of the users in the community aside from a few more responsibilities expected of us. We have lives outside this game and when we finally have some limited time in game some days we need alone time, most days we're really busy etc. Users need to try putting themselves in our position instead of always giving us a hard time. (Not directed at you Autumn :3 Just saying this in general.)
What I'm trying to say with all this is if you have a mod/admin friend try to be patient and more understanding of their situation. Don't jump to conclusions that they don't care about you anymore just because they might not have as much time as they used to to hang out with you anymore. Chances are they just have alot going on but I'm sure once they have the time they'll come on by to you. I always tell my friends that they are more than welcomed to join me anytime but I apologize if I'm not talking for a bit or just distracted with some other business. Once I get things done I always make sure to make up for all that lost time :3
Just try to be more understanding of the staffies guys. Be fair.