Wise words my friend.
Yes I've noticed this difference(Considering I used to only reside in Bonfire), and honestly it doesn't bother me much. What does bother me is when someone gets on their high horse and starts a random feud as if it were Stone Bridge.
We all had that neon stage, when we were all happy and giddy and going to the Mate Center often, so yes, I do see your point. And the passive aggressiveness is definitely something to take note of and try to deal with.
But it's Bonfire.
It's been like this for ages, and honestly, not many take the fighting to heart, and most people that I've seen getting struck down by 'literates/realistics', ignore them and just bite back and leave.
It does not bother me terrible, but I know that there are people in Bonfire who just wanna shut people down who are still in their 'newbie' stage.