Dark Humor

[StarrieNova]

First off +floof to you Lord Sura.
Thank you for bringing this up.

In all honesty this type of humor shakes me to the very core. I dislike humor this dark and horrid. Just he other day I sat at Stone Bridge, and heard members jokingly throw around the words retarded or retard. I get highly offended by the use of those words due to the fact that I had to help partake fighting against society when they labeled one of my own family members as such. It is rude to yourself and to others to call them this, and many should be ashamed of themselves for it.

Another thing is when people jokingly throw the words of rape or suicide out in the chat. What other members don't realize is how those words can affect the brain of another member. For instance I have had to calm many friends who have been through many situations like that because just the sight of those words brought back the thoughts and bad memories of their past sending them into panic attacks. How much I wished to muzzle the person who mentioned those words, and caused many of my friends pain by just the mention. I must admit a large percentage of us floofs most likely had something awful like that happen to us before. Me speaking from my own horrors I must deal with everyday.

I just hope one day the floofs that find all of this humorous stop and think of every person they hurt with these kind of jokes. It would make everyone closer and happier as a family and community if you took other's feelings and pasts into consideration.

[wolfdog01]

I'd just like to say that the majority of the people making these jokes have never had these things happen to them or their loved ones, which causes a certain level of detachment from, and even the romanticism of the true nature of death, sickness, terrorism, war, ect. (And of course there's a percent of people who're just trying to make light of a situation to alleviate fear. It's a very effective survival mechanism).

People who have never had to deal with someone close to them being sick or dying are much more likely to make insensitive jokes about death. The concepts of sickness, death, and ect are just that: concepts. For them, these concepts are things that happen to other people in faraway lands that have no real impact on their daily lives, and therefore they don't bother to try to understand the impact these events have had on the people who've experienced such losses and tragedy.

Not trying to defend these idio...people, just trying to give insight on their possible thought process...or lack thereof.

I can see where you are coming from and I can bet that most people do think like this. But I have to defend for those who have gone through something like that. My family has, and I don't joke around about it with that specific member because I know that it is a sensative topic. Nor do I see myself as an idiot for joking about it. This world is spiraling downhill into probably another world war or just plain war against eachother, at least in America, not sure about elsewhere, and in order for me and my other friends to stay happy, we have to joke about serious topics, we don't want to be one of those uptight, always thinking that only the most innocent jokes are the best, type of person. Of course, the actual idiots that don't even know what rape means, those can get a slap to the face. I understand the meanings and seriousness of these topics, also having a tiny bit of experince with a few of them. In all seriousness, I don't think that if a person gets bullied it is a funny matter, but I am allowed to joke about it afterwards.
Ehehehe, not trying to argue back with people though ^^; just voicing how it is on the other side for a person like me, and I do agree with some of the posts opposite of mine.

[Skan]

I can see where you are coming from and I can bet that most people do think like this. But I have to defend for those who have gone through something like that. My family has, and I don't joke around about it with that specific member because I know that it is a sensative topic. Nor do I see myself as an idiot for joking about it. This world is spiraling downhill into probably another world war or just plain war against eachother, at least in America, not sure about elsewhere, and in order for me and my other friends to stay happy, we have to joke about serious topics, we don't want to be one of those uptight, always thinking that only the most innocent jokes are the best, type of person. Of course, the actual idiots that don't even know what rape means, those can get a slap to the face. I understand the meanings and seriousness of these topics, also having a tiny bit of experince with a few of them. In all seriousness, I don't think that if a person gets bullied it is a funny matter, but I am allowed to joke about it afterwards.
Ehehehe, not trying to argue back with people though ^^; just voicing how it is on the other side for a person like me, and I do agree with some of the posts opposite of mine.

I actually do agree with you, I'm just very pessimistic (or realistic, depending on your experiences with people). My family has gone through a few tragedies as well, so, like you, I reign in my dark humor and am just generally respectful when I'm around them. I occasionally joke about more serious topics to take my friends and family's minds off of a situation, but joking to cope is a bit different than throwing around words thoughtlessly. A few darker jokes here and there can brighten up a situation, but a lot of people just don't use good judgment when making them. Then again, being overly sensitive and uptight isn't a good thing either. Everyone's sense of humor/thought process is different, so things that you and I think are funny/appropriate to the situation could be seen as insensitive or disrespectful to others. If more people used common sense when joking about these topics, I think a lot less people would be offended. There's definitely a time and a place, and public chats in a family friendly community tend to not be one of them.

[wolfdog01]

I can see where you are coming from and I can bet that most people do think like this. But I have to defend for those who have gone through something like that. My family has, and I don't joke around about it with that specific member because I know that it is a sensative topic. Nor do I see myself as an idiot for joking about it. This world is spiraling downhill into probably another world war or just plain war against eachother, at least in America, not sure about elsewhere, and in order for me and my other friends to stay happy, we have to joke about serious topics, we don't want to be one of those uptight, always thinking that only the most innocent jokes are the best, type of person. Of course, the actual idiots that don't even know what rape means, those can get a slap to the face. I understand the meanings and seriousness of these topics, also having a tiny bit of experince with a few of them. In all seriousness, I don't think that if a person gets bullied it is a funny matter, but I am allowed to joke about it afterwards.
Ehehehe, not trying to argue back with people though ^^; just voicing how it is on the other side for a person like me, and I do agree with some of the posts opposite of mine.

I actually do agree with you, I'm just very pessimistic (or realistic, depending on your experiences with people). My family has gone through a few tragedies as well, so, like you, I reign in my dark humor and am just generally respectful when I'm around them. I occasionally joke about more serious topics to take my friends and family's minds off of a situation, but joking to cope is a bit different than throwing around words thoughtlessly. A few darker jokes here and there can brighten up a situation, but a lot of people just don't use good judgment when making them. Then again, being overly sensitive and uptight isn't a good thing either. Everyone's sense of humor/thought process is different, so things that you and I think are funny/appropriate to the situation could be seen as insensitive or disrespectful to others. If more people used common sense when joking about these topics, I think a lot less people would be offended. There's definitely a time and a place, and public chats in a family friendly community tend to not be one of them.

I felt like you just said everything I was trying to lol I agree completely

[Sebastian--Michaelis]

This. I agree wholeheartedly with this post. I see people all over the place joke about it, treating it as some funny little joke, which... it's not.

I've seen people being all like, "That guy has EBOLA!" or even remixing that "Ricola" commercial to say "Ebola" instead.

And, don't even get me started on Ebola-chan.

[WolfQueen]

So I suggest that we do this-

Let's keep Feral Heart as:

- a happy & fun place.
- a community of friends & family
- a safe refuge
- an imaginative canvas
-  an escape from the harshness of reality

But more importantly let's start by improving ourselves as not only players but individuals.

>implying that everyone who plays the game will follow that

lmao

anyways jokes about rape, racism, sexism, etc are very offensive and anyone who jokes about it is trash. my brother seriously jokes about those topics and you do not believe how annoyed about it. but, i can't tell him to stop because he will call me way too sensitive, tell me to shut up, or ignore me. im angry that i have to stay with him at all times after school because he's always the boss of what i do or say. i am unable to tell him that his jokes are offensive. i'd rather watch my school's sport teams play for hours than stay with him and hear his trashy jokes. he actually offended a person by saying a racist joke, but of course he was unaware of it.

although, light jokes around friends are pretty acceptable. for example, if someone sneezes in my math class, one person could say "omg u hav ebola dont touch me <:o" (then the class goes on about ebola for ten minutes). it's sarcastic and it's around friends. something more about ebola jokes, the reason people take it lightly is because it hasn't infected much of the western world. if someone would joke about it in the country where it's very viral in i'm pretty sure it would be taken more seriously. but this is only to a certain level. if you are seriously joking about something serious such as racism, sexism, and rape, then it's not considered at a sarcastic level at all.

like what was mentioned a couple of times, some people may joke about stuff to let off steam and emotional feelings about their real issues in their life. i'm terribly sorry for mentioning something like this and i know everyone's annoyed by it but brendon urie has joked about him being bi-polar several times (although it wasn't really conformed he was actually diagnosed with anything like that). plus, my brother's friend earlier today had joked about his mother being an alcoholic, which im pretty sure it affects him personally.

"dark humor" isn't black and white, per say.

[wolfsquad]

I have been apart the FeralHeart for a while to understand this.
Dark Humor such as joking about rape, death, suicide, mental problems people have, etc.
Stop it, now.
It's not funny. Only you and your twisted friends think it's funny and can smile at the joke.
Many people suffer because of many different things. Reality is hard. You may have problems, but they're probably not as big as the problems other people have.
Think about it.
Ebola is fatal and contagious (Not 100% sure, actually).
If severe enough, rape can kill someone.
Suicide is serious, and can happen to your friends. Yes, your friends.
Mental problems can't be controlled.
It's not like these people wished for these things to happen to them, it just happens.

Now, stop.
The dark humor isn't funny. It's called "Dark" for a reason. And some people are sensitive to this "dark humor", as others said with their stories earlier.

[CryptidBeast]

This is, indeed, a very serious matter.

I do not compete to understand upon why people with such a bad sense of dark humor would joke around in this matter.
I, honestly, fear Ebola. I've heard rumors that it it only sixty miles away from me and that it is, in fact, airborne. People do need to rise from the age of three or six and take some things seriously.

When a loved one of theirs has something bad like this happen to them, or it even gets them theirselves..
They'll be thinking it wasn't funny, and wish they never would have said anything.

Not only is it about the disease, it's talking about mental illness, death, suicide, rape, and every other type of terrible thing, as Kai said. I believe some type of punishment should be given out for such things as long as reported correctly to the correct people.

It's a sensitive topic. You had it very well put, Sura.
Thank you for bringing this to our attention.